we met on our last deployment, and he was the ONLY man to ever sweep me off my feet. i mean, he was that man straight out of the movies that all women want. its been a long hard road since we came back, and now we constanly fight. now he is deployed again, and literally shows me no love or affection, which i desperately need. what do i do, to get through to him?
2006-11-12 15:57:13 · 9 answers · asked by *never give up* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes TWO TO FIGHT.
You gotta figure out what you want.
He's not going to keep coming back to you if it's all confrontation.
That gets old no matter HOW tough a guy is.
He will go looking for someone he doesn't have to fight with.
good luck....
2006-11-12 16:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that and I hope things will get better soon.
He could be suffering from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). You really should check up on that. Unfortunately, war does change a lot of people and increased exposure to it can only worsen the matter.
Communication is a valuable tool; don't take it for granted. Utilize communication to dig deep into the things that are provoking his current attitude. If he won't let you in on what's eating him up, suggest a therapist. If you know someone who's close to him, collaborate with that person to find out the source of the irritation.
It's all on you, hun; the best of luck.
2006-11-12 16:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Θ Chez Θ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how much you love him and that you need him to always show his love to you. It can be very hard to have a loved one away so long, but if you've made it though this much of your marriage, then there must be a very strong love between you two.Try to go where ever he is stationed at. You need to spend more time together. Think back to when you guys where happy. Just repeat what ever you did then.
2006-11-12 16:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is gone then its hard for u to bond better he leaves all the time it makes him stressed all men are like that he probably has anxiety and needs affection toio but he doesnt understand that u give him that he needs to relax more try and show him that u love him with all ur heart and that u want him to love u back support his job status and try and make him feel better about leaving try and make him not worry so much it helps.
2006-11-12 16:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Antonio B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deployment, as in Military.? If that is the case then the reason he would not be showing much love is the fact that he might be or is heading to a combat zone. What he needs is for you to be there for him. And also, if he shows love then it will be harder on him, he may be trying to keep himself from breaking down but you should trust him and know that he does love you.
2006-11-12 16:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its funny its seems like when you really care about a guy all you do is fight. I have been through that too. Whenever you talk with him or see him make it about him (PAMPER HIM).All men love to be spoiled. Ask him how he is and what is going on with him. Make everything be about him. After he is done talking and you are done listening tell him you are sorry about the bickering and that you have been selfish and you miss him so much.TELL HIM HOW YOU REALLY FEEL, forget anything else its him that is important to you go get him back girl.
2006-11-12 16:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by CUTIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him a special care package with snacks and things he likes. Hide a pair of your sexy panties in there. Bite your tongue do not nag or give in to his nagging. Arguing can be a sort of defense mechanism when you miss him and just don't know what else to do or say. Write nice letters to him when you are in a good mood. No nagging.
2006-11-12 16:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby i thnk u r pretending to be ignorant,u urself said that he is now again deployed so he is frustrated and needs ur shoulder,being a guy he cant say it on his own,but u r not understanding then u r being acting a fool
2006-11-12 16:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by vish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the best way to make someone realize how much they love you is to make them jealous. I'll leave you to figure out the rest.
2006-11-12 15:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by A D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋