My 13 year old refuses to go to school because he made the goofy mistake of asking a girl that goes to his school some very inappropriate graphic, sexual questions during a chat. This girl shared the details of what he said with their whole class. Now he is being called a pervert. Even those who he thought were his friends are shunning him and saying unkind things. He is not a pervert; he knows he made a mistake. He could always deny it, but he is not one to lie. What should he do? What should I do?
Is this serious enough to warrant changing schoools?
2006-11-12 15:51:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my heart goes out to your kid, it's tough enough being a teenager without having to go through what he's going through now. the good thing about school is, your fame is only as good as the next rumor. sooner or later, some new scandal/rumor is gonna set in and your son's 15 minute of fame would be over. so i suggest you give it some time. however, if it lasts longer than it should, changing schools may not be a bad idea. everybody deserves a fresh start right?
2006-11-12 16:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids will tease other kids about anything, changing schools is only teaching him to run away from his mistakes not face them. As hard as it is to do, he needs to go to school with a smile on his face and his head held high. He needs to apologize to the girl in private and not worry about what other people think. If these were really his "friends" they would not be making fun of him like that. Kids can be so cruel. But if you let them know that it bothers you it wont stop......if he was to move to another school who sais that the rumor couldnt spread there to...say the girls cousin joe gos to school there and she tells him and then before he even gets established there its become a problem there too....then what? You cant just keep moving him .....in a few weeks these kids will all forget anything that was said, I mean how many kids at age 13 can remember to clean thier rooms, do thier chores etc. much less remember something another kid done last week....by that time thier will be another kid they are picking on....i wouldnt worry i would just encourage him to be positive, and not listin to what they are saying, stay to himself and ignore them for a week or so and eventually they will give up trying to hurt him or shun him....they will see that he is strong and it will make them like him for that...especailly if he apologizes to the girl, then he should not carry any guilt about it....he made a mistake and he is owning up to it , being positive and moving on!!! In the big people world he cant up and leave his job because he made a mistake and people are talking about him.....he will have to face his mistakes head on...its never to late to start instilling those kind of values and to learn how to stand up to yourself and not care what other people think!!!!!! good luck!!
2006-11-12 16:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by superchick_222000@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you could do to change what the kids thinks about your kid.. he did a bad thing and now he has to face his consequences. i know it must be very hard for him to face the whole class teasing him.. well, he can say sorry face to face with the girl he chat.. there's a start.. then he can also say to his classmates when they are teasing him "I did a bad thing and I learn from it". your son has to show his classmates that he is sorry what he have done..
what you can do is to always support him, tell him that he did a wrong thing and he has to face it like a big boy should. but if your son is very stress out with his school, you should change his school.. don't force him to do something he don't like for no reason at all.. but before changing his school, i think is best to give it a second try by your son and you to support him.
Good Luck
2006-11-12 17:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by L-j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's an awfully drastic reaction from the other kids. he has owned up to what he did, and now it's time for everybody to get over it. this chat was between him and one girl, not him and the whole school. maybe the other kids need to be reminded of that.
and the longer he stays out of school, the worse it's going to get.
encourage him, and get him back in school. and what about this girl, she was the other half of the conversation!
Best Wishes.
2006-11-12 16:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teenagers can be cruel. my best friend went through something like this. she wrote a letter to her boyfriend and dropped it. a teacher read it to all his classes to find the owner since she hadnt yet signed her name to it. she was talking about going to the doctor and everyone assumed she was pregnant. even the teacher made fun of her. she just told everyone that her private life was none of their business and held her head high. i think your son should go to school and tell the girl he made a mistake (in front of everyone) and then add 'i dont know why you would think id be interested in you sexually anyway. i was just trying to make you feel better about your self. looks like it worked concidering you think i want you now' and just walk away.
2006-11-12 16:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bridgette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not so serious. He should just ignore the friends keep attending classes and concentrate in studies. Some times we are branded wrongly even if we are not at fault. People forget things soon. It is natural to be curious. Neither he nor you are at fault. Be proud of yourself.
2006-11-12 15:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋