my husband want let me have any moneyso i cant leave i have no where to go and i have 4 kids that needs a home my husband does not workbut trads on stuff and makes money that way our house is falling all to pices and he want get another one the other man want be with me untill i leave my husband becouse they are friends and he does want to be part of my sons life and i don't have any one that will help me i dont want to stay with my husband i'm not happy any more he does not want to prived for his family the way he should the other man says he wants to be with me but we cant be together while i'm married that we shouldn't even sleep togetherand he can wait on me to get out please help me how can i leave with no money and take care of my kids?
2006-11-12 15:26:14 · 23 answers · asked by mommy of brats 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you think that this new man can help you and your children...then go with him if he can help you...it sounds like your husband right now doesn't really care if your family falls apart so you should do what's best for you and your children.
2006-11-12 15:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by frootiee_tootiee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's kind of Jerry Springer really. Don't you have any family you can stay with at all? Surely there is someone willing to take you in while you sort this mess out. You're obviously not happy with your husband so you shouldn't stay and hurt yourself. Think of the children as well, growing up in an environment like that isn't fun at all. They'd rather see two happy parents separately, then two miserables parents together - trust me.
Good luck.
2006-11-12 15:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by kismet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is a mess, but don't make it worse by jumping out of a bad marriage and into a relationship with your husband's friend. that sure won't help things any! maybe you could stay with a friend or family member until you can get a job and get back on your feet. right now, what's important is taking care of your children and yourself. it sounds like you have a lot of things to work on, but take them one thing at a time, and one day at a time.
Good Luck to You.
2006-11-12 15:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you stay with your husband first until such time that you're much prepared to raise your kids on your own BUT only for the reason that you are not happy with your marriage. forget the other man, if he loves you - then he should also love your kids - it's part of the package when you fall in love with a woman with kids. the world doesn't revolve around you, so consider the other people in the situation, meaning, your kids. think how your next actions could affect them.
2006-11-12 15:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, if you keep your legs closed you won't be in such a dilema. 4 kids and hubby not working and what did you do all that time???? you should stop at 1 when it was easier, but 4 kids later and now your sleeping with another man and having his baby??? H.O.! keep you legs closed for goodness sake so you won't over populate the earth with your dumb little kids. Nobody force you to have sex and put you in the situation your in now, you did that to yourself and now you want someone else to get you out or your dilema??? Smart, you should have thought about it before you even start. Sorry for sounding like a ******, but it's the truth and I can't even begin with you.
2006-11-12 15:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by KaPaul L 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have to leave your husband, he will legally be responsible to financially support your children. you need to talk to a professional counsellor and find out where you can go with your children and the counsellor can help you contact a lawyer to make sure you get money from your husband.
2006-11-12 15:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by clcmartinez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get off the internet, for starters, get a divorce if there is no other possibility, and figure out exactly what you need before you get into another relationship.
2006-11-12 15:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Wishful Writer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go back and at least get your GED so you can get a job..
if you even get a restaurant job, you can survive..if your current husband doesnt work..there is the answer to the childcare..
If you have "no money"..how do you have internet access or even a computer?
2006-11-12 15:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i got what you wrote right, you did cheat on your husband, but not only that, you had a baby from another man, you simply deserve what you went your self through. sorry!!
2006-11-12 15:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by Nolimits 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO START LOOKING AT TALKING TO SOMEONE
ABOUT WHAT IS GOING, IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY THERE
THEN TRY TO MAKE ARRANGEMENT TO GET OUT, AND
IF THE OTHER GUY REALLY WANT TO BE WITH YOU
AND HE THE FATHER OF ONE OF YOUR CHILDREN
THEN HE HAS TO STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND TRY
TO HELP YOU GET OUT OF WHERE YOU ARE. ALSO
TALK TO YOUR FAMILY AS WELL.
2006-11-12 15:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋