I want to know if there is a way to still live in the same house before getting divorced (thereby cutting on expenses) where we can split money, debt, etc and put our job paychecks into our own separate accounts? We want each of us to pay half the mortgage, half the utilities, etc out of our own separate bank accounts (funded by our jobs).
We are divorcing, but do not want to incur the added cost of separate housing, utilities, etc until the divorce is final. This will allow us to start have a separate financial situation (as in divorce).
We have two children and own a home.
2006-11-12 15:24:01 · 9 answers · asked by J.V. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. you can. that's what my parents have done.
2006-11-12 15:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by asds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your question because I am in the same situation but can it really work? If you are wanting to get a divorce in the first place than how the heck do you live with this person and not be together? Whatever problems you were having are still going to be there facing you everday. I don't think I could do that, not even if it meant saving money.
2006-11-12 15:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Julez_30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know a couple that tried to do this, and man, it was so weird for them they had to just give it up. Now, granted, they didn't have children yet, so making the final decision to split everything did not have that caveat.
But, what happened with them was, they soon got very irritable every waking moment, and especially when their paths crossed getting ready for work, etc. One even tried to start dating, and boy did that prove to be a disaster for everyone involved.
Legally, it's certainly possible. Bottom line, I would advise you to reconsider what you're planning, because everything you were trying to get beyond by divorcing will still be right there keeping you bogged down in what should be your past.
2006-11-12 15:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great you two are handling this like mature responsible adults and parents. Good for you both. As for the living situation, as long as you both can get along and you set some ground rules for everything at the beginning, I don't see how it couldn't work. Divorce shouldn't mean war. if your kids can handle it and you both can handle the fact that one or both of you will date again then it will work. If your some reason it stops working then you need to look at other options, because constant strife is not good for kids. Good luck.
2006-11-12 15:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that should br ok. I mean its the same thing as letting your friend live with you and making him or her pay for half. but make sure when paying the bill its not two seperate checks. Tip; make paying the bills by switching who pays each month, or make one person pay for it and the other just pay them bak for what they originally owe.
2006-11-12 15:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by vtec14_1991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? You can divorce and have no relation, but think of your childrens because they need both of you. They need love from their parents. I am not asking you to patch up, but requesting you to think of your childrens.
2006-11-12 15:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just live there you don't have to sleep in the same bed do you it can work it has been done many times just ask god for the strength to stay there
2006-11-12 15:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by k2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can just sleep in separate rooms.
2006-11-12 15:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE sorry kid...it just aint happenin
2006-11-12 15:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋