I mean, my wife just thinks she can hit me at will, because she's a woman. Then, she calls the cops on me when I give her a beat down. It's just not fair. Am I handling this wrong?
2006-11-12 14:44:06 · 24 answers · asked by Ben Franklin 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
You should look at that from a different side. Violence is NEVER instigated from the victim, but is ALWAYS the decision of the actor. If she hits you, this is only her decision as well as it is your decision to hit her. if she beats you, you have a right to defend yourself, or to call the cops, as well as she does. Yes, you both are handling it wrong... unless you both like to fight.
2006-11-13 00:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Aurora 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
First of all never hit a woman. A man thats hits a woman cannot fight a man. And she is wrong for hitting you as well. Your both are not handling your marriage in a fair way to one another. Hope there are no kids involved here. And women don't instigate domestic violence. It takes two. You both need professional help. If you both decide not to get help, then one has walk out of this relationship before someone ends up in the hospital or 6ft under.
2006-11-12 15:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 4⤊ 5⤋
Just a comment to Tinkerbelle
You answer confused me. Did you say you don't care if she hit her but that HE should not hit a "lady"? Then have the audacity to say that only children hit back. Are you saying that Ladies can hit a man?
Just my opinion but if a woman hit me, and hurt me bad enough I would not hit her back because I know I would go to jail and She would not. But personally, I believe if you are violent to wards someone then you should expect violence back.
To everyone else. I don't condone this behavior and I would not slap a slip of a girl if she hit me. But hitting someone and expecting to get away with it just because you are female is wrong.
To the asker, Yes you are handling it wrong. I've been in domestic violence with a g/f. If you hit here then chances are you are going to jail. this is just the messed up society we are in. Make a police report and and If she does it again send her to jail. Stop violence yourself and get outta the relationship. you should never have to worry about your spouse or significant other being violent to you.
2006-11-13 05:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by elliott 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a cultural taboo. A woman that hauls off and attacks a man is rarely at fault if a man "defends" himself. The man is supposed to just walk away from someone assaulting him. The way gender equality is supposed to work is same laws and expectations if I am not mistaken. A woman that assaults a man should be charged the same way. Although the people above are correct in asking for sources, I have also heard statistics like this and it is quite sad.
2016-03-19 07:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all responsible for our own behaviour.
We are all accountable for our actions.
Both sexes can instigate domestic violence.
2006-11-12 15:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by lulu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are handling it wrong, call the police when she hits you and have her locked up. It is not ok for either one of you to put your hands on the other. If you can not get along without hitting one another then perhaps you should end the relationship. Call the police on her and send her butt to jail, then maybe she will get a grip on herself. God bless*
2006-11-13 06:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to be in jail for a night or two, followed quickly by classes in Anger Management and appropriate fines and court costs. And then again and again, until you are convinced that this behavior will not be tolerated.
But you, being the male, KNOW how much stronger you are and you could seriously hurt her.
Knock it off.
Peace.
2006-11-12 14:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
You have to get out of this one, I'm afraid.
She is a nasty piece of work.
What she's doing isn't that unusual.
2006-11-13 07:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she slaps you and in return you beat the holy **** out of her. And is this wrong? YES. Regardless of the fact that she is a woman, she is your wife. In your wedding vowels it says to honor and protect her, protecting her does not mean betting the **** out of her, it means keeping her from harms ways.
Whats a proper way to take care of the situation. Next time she hits you turn the tables on her and call the cops. Make sure you have some kind of proof; a video tape, witnesses, bruises, something.
You are falling right into her plan when you strike her back. AND thats why you end up in the cuffs.
2006-11-12 14:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
Jessica correct. Get a Divorce and get away from her. She may try to stalk you, but, get a no contact order, it may help. You not careful you be the one in jail.
2006-11-12 14:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋