been divorced 4 yrs was nasty now we get along for our son sake.how do you handle gift giving with your ex .our son is only 6 so he can't go out and buy "dad" a gift.he always makes like a card and makes things at school for dad..do you go out an buy a gift for you ex from your child?my new husband said no thats to weird.but my friend said thats what she does for x-mas and fathers day.so my question is do you just have your child "make' something for your ex or do you go out and buy something from the child to give to dad?
2006-11-12 14:40:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex was almost immediately with his new girlfriend (now wife) when we split so I didn't worry about that because I knew she would handle it. If not for her, I would have absolutely made sure that she had a gift for her dad. Tell your husband it's not ABOUT your ex! It's about the fact that your son will be excited to have a gift for Dad. You wouldn't want him to be embarrassed or hurt for not having a gift, would you? Also, it sends a clear message to your son that it's OK for him to love his dad and that you're OK with that! It's the best thing for his self esteem!
2006-11-12 14:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by fastlanejiggy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your ex take your son shopping to buy YOU a gift? Probably not. Though I think your heart is in the right place, I'm not sure your head is. I'm not intending to insult you, I'm meaning that divorce is hard on everyone, and sometimes our heads get foggy and we have lapses in judgement. I recommend having your son make Dad's holiday gift and here is why. First of all, it will teach your son that gift giving comes from the heart and that is a lesson that will last a lifetime. Also, you as a mom knows that a handmade gift from your childs heart is the best gift of all, Dad knows that too!
2006-11-12 15:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by s w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before my daughter was working my ex and I would give her money to purchase a small gift for the other parent. Tell your new husband that it's not "weird" that your ex is STILL your son's father and your son has the right to get him a gift even if you have to pay for it.
2006-11-12 18:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You son should give his dad a Christmas present.....set a budget and take him shopping.
Let him buy something small and inexpensive that's appropriate for a 6 year old to buy a parent.
Making something can be even nicer and more special.
2006-11-12 14:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mking something would be the best idea.I went through this and for 3 years my kids gave me something that the ex bought for them to give me.I would take it back to the store and return it for cash then let the kids get what they wanted.Its cold but I didn't want or need any reminders of her.
2006-11-12 14:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have my daughter make a card for her dad and then i ask her what she would like to get him as a present. last year she said water balloons, so that's what we got him, and he loved it. :)
2006-11-12 14:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by moonstruckmaiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋