My husband is 52 and I am 46. We have been married for 24 years. With only a few (hormonal humps along the way), we have enjoyed a good sex life. It just seems that in the past couple years he is not enjoying sex like I DO!! Is this normal for ol married folks?
2006-11-12 14:24:09 · 14 answers · asked by Wonderer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him a little boost..
Get him some viagra..
Get him involved with a little exercise & diet..
Watch some porn with him..
He will come around...
Anything you have resisted doing in your life ?
Now would be a good time to get over it and give it a try...
You have got a LOT of life & sex left in you girl....
I'll bet you would be a delight in bed with a man of any age...
2006-11-12 14:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desire is mental, Ability is physical. That's answer no. 1.
As far as him being into it or lack thereof, that's a bigger issue. Since sex is more physical for a man than a woman, it could be a million different things. He may not even be aware of why. If this has gone on for a couple of years, you definitely should have had a conversation about it long ago. Always approach this delicately. If you are not suspicious of anything, simply ask "Honey, it seems as though you've lost a bit of interest in having sex. Is everything okay? What can I do that would help you get the most out of our intimate life". and liste to what he says.
2006-11-12 22:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very normal amongst married people as it is amongst non married people. it could be that is he all sexed out. he has had enough for some time and needs a small break. or he could be worried about his age and his ability to perform like he used to and that could be discouraging him from wanting to have sex with you. or you could be going through menopause and that is causing hormonal imbalances, making you want sex a lot more now. it could be several things. what you need to do is sit down, pin point what is going on and why and address the issue.
2006-11-12 22:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal, even though I am only 23 years old and have been married for 3.5 yrs, I know people is my family. ie, inlaws who are having the same problem. People desire sex at different stages in their life.Like us women we start getting into it more at our prime which is in our 30-40's. Men's prime is usually in their teens-20's. Dont feel bad as long as you know that he loves you always and forever there is no problem. there is more to love than sex. Try other things if that helps. Good luck!
2006-11-12 22:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you gotta realize, you 2 are at different ends of the spectrum right now. Women hit their sexual peak around age 42, and men hit theirs at about age 21. So you're in the "prime" time and he's about 30 years removed. However, it's bad form on his part to zone out now. Based on your question, he's not having physical problems, just motivational ones.
It's all about communication; we are all sexual creatures, something's going to get him excited, it's just a matter of finding out what. So ask him. I know of no well-balanced man that does not find it exciting when his woman shows her desire for him. If you can't get out of him what he would enjoy doing with you, then there's something else going on there that you 2 need to deal with.
2006-11-12 22:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are describing a conditions known as Inhibited sexual desire (ISD). The person with ISD fails to initiate or respond to their partner's desire for sexual activity.
ISD is a very common sexual disorder. The most common cause of ISD seems to be relationship problems wherein one partner does not feel emotionally intimate or close to their mate.
Communication problems, health problems such as depression, insomnia, excessive stress or erectile disfunction.
Treatment is required by the professional therapist and it depends on the eliminating causes listed above.
2006-11-12 22:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is like mountains and valleys....sometimes it's high sometimes not so high.
He should have a total physical to make sure he's in good condition and to rule out anything that may cause his libido to be low.
At that time if your husband is concerned about his sex drive have him talk frankly with his doctor to come up with a solution.
Then you guys will be off and running (so to speak) again. Good luck
2006-11-12 22:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the differencs are the ability to have sex can leave a hole inside of you, more that the desire to have sex.
Sex and caring should go together or else you might as well be a machine.with no feelings.
2006-11-12 22:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Wiseguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuhh sorry sweety but im only 18 and i deff aint plannin on getin married on time soon although i bet its a great thang.....but if you really need help on dis and really care than why are you on here you should be talkin to a doc. or somethin.....lol....and i dont think dats its very smart ta be puttin all yo info on here like dat take a hint!
2006-11-12 22:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by lilnaychulita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-11-15 02:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by hey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋