My mother-in-law lives five hours from us and she is single. She is 72 and meaner than a snake. She has nothing nice to say to me or our oldest son. (Our boys are 6 & 8) She refuses to make her house festive because it appears "too messy." What do I say to my husband? We have been married for nearly seven years and this is an ongoing fight. We have been to her house probably close to 100 times over the years. She has been here TWICE. Any suggestions?
2006-11-12 14:19:26 · 10 answers · asked by Bobbi Sue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"meaner than a snake." That's funny! I sympathize with your situation. I sure wouldn't want to go there. What's the worst thing that could happen if you take a strong stance with your husband and tell him that you don't want to go this year? Why not invite the old coot to your home? Or just skip going to the relatives this year and celebrate the holidays with your husband and children.
Also, I would have a problem with a mother-in-law who doesn't have anything nice to say about you or your son and the fact that your husband let's her get away with that nastyness. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
2006-11-12 15:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you want to stay home and have a "family" Christmas with just the 4 of you. Go visit Grandma after the holiday -- Christmas, I am guessing.
Tell him you want to see a counselor to talk this out, since you can't seem to agee. My hub and I have done this and it sure does help.
2006-11-12 23:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, She is 72, and might be hateful etc. but she is 72! I mean how much longer do you really think your gonna have to go to her house? maybe 2-3 years... thats not a big deal really. I say for your husbands sake suck it up and go. But do not allow her to be be ugly to your child. Stand up for him. Id tell her that you and your husband will not allow her to hateful to your child. And that she really should try and have more patience etc. She/he is only a child.
2006-11-12 22:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by killinshel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to stay home and spend it with him and your kid/s and invite her there. She more than likely sounds as if she won't come but it will make you look like you care at least. Then if she does try and keep your distance and let them visit. At least you and your kid/s will be where you can disappear in a room or something and not have to deal with her.
2006-11-12 22:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep truckin' sista! Keep telling your husband that it might be a great idea for her to come over there...because you KNOW you have to see her...but if she doesn't want to come over...you can't make her. Good Luck...keep your head high...and when you turn around...roll your eyes...(it is so much fun)
2006-11-12 22:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by ladydrea2918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are not going. If she wants to see your family she can come to you. If she gets out of hand while at your house, you have the right to tell her to crawl back under the rock she slithered out beneath :)
2006-11-12 22:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband wants to visit his mother then let him do it by himself. give your motherinlaw your best regards but stay home and enjoy yourself. i would not go where i was not wanted. and i also would not put my children through this hurt. tell your husband how you feel and stand your ground.
2006-11-12 22:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to comprimise, tell him you can visit after all the holiday traffic and/or airports tell him you don't want to add the stress of traveling on the holidays, and make plans for jan or feb
2006-11-12 22:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your husband request you to go over mother`s house let him known you have cramps or borderline headache
2006-11-12 22:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by giggi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better you be at her place than her making yours unappreciated.
2006-11-12 23:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Keanu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋