i went downstairs around 5:30pm and asked my mom what we were having for dinner, and she told me beans. instead of eating the beans, i had a bowl of cereal. my dad comes into the kitchen and says "you kids are so spoiled, you wont even eat whats made for you..." im 18yrs old, shouldnt i be able to eat what i want?
2006-11-12 14:13:03 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
id love to move out, im still in highschool so my parents wont let me.
2006-11-12 14:19:36 · update #1
my mom doesnt even care! she made beans because SHE likes beans. its my dad who calls me spoiled for everything. if he didnt like what my mother was cooking, hed eat something else too. same for my mother. i wasnt being rude!
2006-11-12 15:08:30 · update #2
Yes, you are an adult, and you should be treated like one.
Part of adulthood though, I might add, is paying for, and making, your own food.
Although your father overreacted, maybe next time instead of blowing off the meal your mother is planning on making, you should offer to cook yourself. That way you can have a nice dinner, and your parents will be satisfied.
2006-11-12 14:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Darko 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To a point, I agree with you. But, you need to prove to your dad that you aren't a spoiled brat. Do you regularly refuse to eat what your parents cook? You're dad must have a reason for saying that, most parents don't call their kids spoiled brats for no reason. Next time try making some suggestions to your parents as to what you might like for supper (besides cereal), and then, and this is a big point, help them make it. Now, you have to present these ideas to them in a grown up manner and not just "I want ice cream every day for supper!" Act like a grown up, and they will treat you like a grown up. But realize that they are still you parents and while you are living under their roof, they do have some control over you, including what you can eat for supper. Don't be too eager to get out of the house. Trust me, they really help you more than you know.
2006-11-13 05:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea You Should, But It Is Kinda Rude Not Eating What Was Made For You. But I Totally Understand Why You Didn't Eat..Who Eats Beans Anyway..Maybe Get A Job And Buy Your Own Food, Then No One Can Say Anything To You, B/c It's Yours Not Theirs.
2006-11-12 14:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
1. If your Mother cooked for you, you should try to show some respect and eat what she made.
2. If you are 18, your parents have no say if you want to move out since you are legally an adult.
2006-11-13 00:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm probably going to get blasted for this, but I agree with you. You're not a child, and it's your choice what you want to eat for dinner. I think maybe you should have asked your mom if she minded if you just ate cereal instead, but even if she wanted you to eat the beans, she can't make you eat them. I know everyone else keeps saying "if you don't like their rules, move out" but I think they're forgeting how hard it would be for you to work enough hours to afford your own apartment, utilities, etc, and still finish school with decent grades. If your dad wants to be a hard-*** and call you spoiled, then try this- work part-time (if you don't already) so that you can afford to buy your own food, and then say "it's my food, I paid for it, and that way I can eat what I choose to eat." I'm just lucky I never encountered this problem. My parents had rules, but what I ate was not one of them. If I wanted cereal for dinner, then that's what I had.
2006-11-13 13:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by AshletD 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are 18. You are an adult by law. If you are going to be bad-*** then move out. They cannot legally make you live in their home. They cannot legally do anything with you. You are an adult and if you feel mature enough--you can move out. If you can't provide for yourself and live in your own apartment, pay for your own food, and utilities--then you have no other choice but to live with them. While you are in their house you live by their rules and respect them--how would you feel if you worked hard preparing a meal and because someone didn't like it--they just ate cereal instead.
2006-11-12 15:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not help your mom make dinner instead of turn up your nose at what she has offered you. If you are so proud of being 18, old enough to be independant, then go try living on your own. I think you should appologize for being so rude and insensitive to your poor mother!
2006-11-12 14:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by netlocmom 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You may be 18 but you haven't grown up yet. If your mother is doing the cooking, eat what she makes. When you volunteer to do the cooking in her place, you can make what you like. It's a simple matter of courtesy and respect.
2006-11-12 14:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 yes, but you still live under your parents' roof. You are showing lack of respect for your mother and lack of courtesy by not eating what your mother worked hard to fix. I bet you totally broke your mom's heart by pulling that. I applaud your dad for saying something. It was rude & inconsiderate. I suggest you apologise to your mother for acting that way.
2006-11-12 14:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live under your parent's roof, you still need to follow their rules. If something is made for dinner, that's what you eat, whether you're 8, 18, or 28, it doesn't matter. If you want to eat what you want, live on your own, make dinner for the entire family, or be a part of meal planning in your household.
2006-11-12 14:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋