32 and miserable.Tell me you are or have been in the same boat.?

Question

It feels like I haven't achieved anything in my life. I'm not where I should be career-wise (not much movement up the corporate ladder), I'm still single (I'm very attractive but too choosy) and practically broke. I desperately want to make changes in my life now but the thought that I'm already in my thirties and wanting to start all over again always brings me down. I know that I am more than what I'd demonstrated all these years and I'm capable of achieving more but this age thing has a way of creeping up on me and I'd go "F***, this is something I should have done in my 20s! How embarrasing!" It puts me a such a disempowering state.

Are you experiencing the same predicament? Or have you? What did you about it? Most importantly, how did you overcome the negative thoughts and take actions and eventually took control of your life and achieve what you wanted? Pray tell me there is still hope :-(

Answer 1

I've been in the same boat, you are not alone. But what you need to do is think positive over negative. There is much you could do regarding time past. In fact there is nothing, it's gone forever. For all the time you dwell on it, you get further depressed. Trust me, I know this very well. There are many people even in their 40's that have not lived up to their full potential or wish for something different. But that's the point, don't just wish, act upon it now. You don't have to let the negative actions rule you, just make a time plan. Regarding age, you are still young, do not worry. I will be glad to assist you.

Answer 2

I am 29 and I just went through a ruff time but it was about credit. I was talking to my boss about it and what he told my was just what i needed to hear. what he said was your still young, you may have not made much progress in the past 10 years but you still have 40 to 60 good years left, think about it being your first 10 years you will find that your 30s and 40s will be the best times in your life. he also said he was 35 before he moved out of his mothers house, I hope this experience of mine will help you :)

Answer 3

i'm 31 and have been in the same situation for a while now. but i have recently taken a few steps to change things. I 'm trying to meet new people and have a bit of fun. I 'm looking for a man to share my life with and i have a prospect on the line, but it all takes time. i too am broke i lost my job but i'm looking for another one and hopefully i will get one soon and a better one than the one i had. i have just had to think positive and try to remebmer that there are people in worse situations than mine and there is always hope out there and room for change and i have made a step by step plan of how i'm going to impliment my changes. yes it is daunting to change your life in your 30's but if it needs changing then just do it. that is what i'm doing!

Answer 4

i felt the same way most of my life!!.....i never cared whether i lived or died...i was never where i thought i should be..or ever did enough...i spent MANY years trying to change myself....therapy...self help...meds...and nothing worked.....SELF ACCEPTANCE did it......the hell with what everyone thought i should be or what i THOUGHT i should be......i'm happier now than ever.....i'm in control of my life and having a ball.......don't let society control you with all the "shoulds"...all those embedded negative thoughts.....own yourself.....it's SO empowering......you can't imagine.....it's you! only you...the way you think!....that decides how your life is and will be.....you THINK your life into being what it is...you change it from the inside out.....hopefully this will give some perspective and hope for change......don't wait so many years like i did .....put your thinking on a positive track and don't pay attention to those voices that put you down or make you fell less of a person and steal your self-worth.....and don't judge yourself.....chin up...blessings from been there!

Answer 5

Well at 41 it hasnt changed much either,if you look at it like that,I did drugs up until last year decided to quit,failed a test on purpose(a bad way to cry for help by the way)and lost my job,a week prior to that on my 14th anniversary my wife and i seperated(and no the drugs werent the problem I was a very successful addict)but I was now alone with no income,no spouse,and living with my little brother who was an alcoholic/addict and was 6ft 3,270lbs and didnt like the idea I was sober and his paycheck was gone by sunday after being paid on friday,so I was feeding us and friends on about $40.00 dollars a week(change that I scrambled out of everywhere.There was no unemployment and no body wanted to hire an ex addict,with just a roof over my head,and very little food and money I managed to go to rehab($3000.00) dollarsand reinstate my class 1 from a class 3 license(in what happens when you get caught with drugs with a truck license and pulled myself up and out,I now live with my wife again and finally found a driving job after being turned down numerous times and am living in another city out of California.So time has nothing to do with it only your happiness so take it easy and just live life,theres no timetable to it...thats just life

Answer 6

I went through five years of the same but now I feel great and
say things couldn't be better well almost anyway keep hope and keep trying cause things do change and time teaches us to
better cope as well ..
peace out

Answer 7

Well im at 29 and i feel the same way. I dont knwo what to do abotu it myself, and i feel like i wasted my life. I will be looking back at this question to see what others say to you as i would like to know as well.

Answer 8

yes. i think the trick is to ignore many of the conflicting messages society throws at us. as long as life exists, the possibilities are endless.

Answer 9

Stop being so choosy you flirty tart !!!

Answer 10

there is hope
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