Stillborn baby?

Question

who out there has had a stillborn baby and how long ago? Do you still grieve when his/her Birthday comes around? My son would have been 14 today and I play the whole awful day in my head every year

I had pictures taken too and foot prints and a lock of his hair. I remember how warm he was when he was born and gradually he became cold. I couldnt keep him warm. He smelled like the Earth. Not sure how to explain that. I was 32 weeks

Answer 1

When I was 17yrs old I had a still born baby boy at 36 weeks. It was one of the sadest days of my life. I look at the 2 beautiful girls I have now and am very greatful, but still grieve for the son I never got to know. My son would have been 12 on Nov. 16, 2006.

I know your pain and it will always be a part of you. I will always remember that horrible day also, and how badly I didn't want to let go, It didn't seem fair. It still doesn't.

Answer 2

A really close friend had a stillborn baby four years ago, and she still has a hard time with it. The hospital took pictures of her holding him, and I know she still looks at them sometimes. She always wonders if she had done something wrong or why didn't she know. I know she thinks about him a lot even though she was able to have another, healthy baby since then. Although I have never experienced what you have, from my friend's reaction, it sounds like all moms always have a special place in their heart for that baby they didn't get to know.

Answer 3

You will always grieve for your child. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. At least you did have some time with him. I was not that lucky and when the anniversary of the date comes around all I can think of is wishing I could have held him just once.

There are books and things that offer advice. (I guess only time lessens things and even time won't take all the pain away)

Answer 4

One of my best friends had a still born. She has pictures of him too, and they are framed and sitting out in her living room, she also has pictures of him in her wallet. this was a few years ago, and since then has given birth to 2 lovely little girls. She thinks about him all the time. He's her angel watching over her.
You'll never stop thinking of it, especially when his birthday comes around. My mom had a miscarrage before i was born, she never really said too much about it, other than that (not sure if it was still born or what). She cried when she told me and that was years and years ago. One night she and one of her friends were talking and i over heard her say he would have been 18. I think i was 12ish at the time. She'll never forget either. It's your child, and you loved him and you were so far in your pregnancy. Just know he was sent to you for a reason, and he's always watching out for you. Sorry for your loss, and youre not experiencing anything out of the norm.

Answer 5

I honestly never had it happen but a friend of mine lost her baby 3 days ago...4 days before her due date. the doctor sent her home with the heartbeat faint and a few hours later, he was gone. I still have not called her because what do you say to someone? i have a 6 week old baby as well. if you have any advice from the mothers point of veiw please let me know.

Answer 6

This is something no Mother will forget. My Aunt had a still born he would be 27 In January of 2007. she greives differently but also was more protective of her other Kids she had after this so everyone has ther own way of greiving. sorry to hear about your loss

Answer 7

like the person above mentioned i could not begin to comprehend how you feel I'm 8/1/2 months preggo and i worry every day if he will be healthy... i am so sorry for your loss and you have every right to grieve i dont know what i would do if i lost my precious baby god bless you

Answer 8

Even at birth we are sinners because of the fall of Adam and Eve in the garden. But because an infant or a child is too young to make a conscience decision yes they go to heaven.

Answer 9

i know it's hard but you just have to be strong. my brother was a stillborn baby and i think about him all the time not only when his b-day comes around. it hurts to know that he is gone but you just have to look on the bright side. i know it might seem like there is no bright side but there is. remember everything happens for a reason.

Answer 10

I'm so so so sorry for your loss, every birthday of his that comes around u will probably still grieve, again i am so so so so so sorry!!