How can I find a boyfriend or just a friend? I really want it, but I feel nobody will never like me!?

Question

I'm brazilian and now I'm living in minnesota...so I dont know anyone. I (think) am smart, and funny.....and after all, i am not very ugly...
I quited trying to be a friend of a girl here in America......all the girls seems to ignore me and even dont like me. I cant find anyone to talk or just hang out....
And the boys I met, or just dont like me too...or they just want to have sex. And the ones that are not like that, are just too busy all the time......or, they just dont want to talk to me anymore.
I'm sick of this!
Where can I find friends and a boyfriend? Everybody is so distant..
hunf!

Okay...and about my grammar: I dont speak English! It is not my first language, and I am still learning.
It would make sense if it was in portuguese, but the translation I can make is that. That would be important if I was American....but not speaking English...it's not the point!

Answer 1

Just be yourself. Time will heel your problems.

Answer 2

Lucy,
The best advice I could give you is for you not to try. Go to a local bar-restaurant place and just mingle with the bartenders. Just ask them random questions. Such as, "who's winning? (make sure a game is on)", "what's going with this people(on TV)?"..etc. Short conversations. Don't just go for one day, go for several days in a week so you can become a regular. Trust me the bartender will remember your name and he/she will introduce to other people. Then those people will introduce you to other people. You ask how do I know this, well let me tell you a little bit about my self. I my self was bartender once for 4years. I seen people trying to meet people that hard way and give the wrong impression like you said "they just want to have sex" Just have the bartender do all the work for you. Now let me ask you another question. What type of work you do? Maybe you could ask a co-worker for a drink or so.

Answer 3

Try getting involved in some extra-curricular activities and focus on you. Girls are often threatened and jealous of new girls, especially when they are pretty. Don't worry you will meet somebody soon enough to either be friends with or date. Remember things are a little different where you are now. What seems normal and acceptable in brazil might not be in minnesota. Stay away from the hockey players.

Answer 4

That's a difficult question to answer.

You're in a different culture, so making friends will be difficult. Still, there are reasons to do so with both men and women. When you aren't involved, it always feels like you'll never meet someone. This feeling is natural. Usually, a relationship will just sneak up on you. You'll meet someone who's nice, you make friends, and after a while you find yourself in a relationship.

Good luck.

Answer 5

ok, one, don't think like that, i know it's hard, im in kinda the same boat, but you will find some special ppl, and maybe that special one. two, dont' think of yourself as "i (think) i am smart" or "I am not very ugly" think of yourself as "I AM SMART" and "I AM PRETTY'. period. three, don't go with just the sex, it's not worth it in the long run, and as SOON as you see the person your with thinking that, LEAVE, NOW! fourth, although it's a LAST resort, you could always move. just pick up and go someplace new. i had a friend who moved to florida to get away from everything where i am, he met the girl of his dreams, they have been married for several years and have two beautiful children. again, it's a last resort, but you never know, it could be just what you need. finally, i'll be your fiend. there, now you have one :D email me anytime. good luck, and be POSITIVE

Answer 6

Im from America and I have the same problem sometimes. Usually if I start doing my own thing like with hobbies and such I will meet the people that I can relate to. Try focusing on the things you like to do and the friends will come.

Answer 7

brazilians are the sexiest women on the planet. i think you have to quit trying and just be yourself. don't pretend to be someone or change your character to fit in. trust me on this...be yourself, don't be nervous and and head's up. people will just be attracted to you.

sometimes when people moved to a different place they find it hard to adjust because people are different and everything is different. i'm sure you'll adjust and will get used to it. you'll have so many friends you wouldn't know what to do with them.

Answer 8

You do have a delimma but the only answer i can give u is to just keep looking for tht right guy just dont give up he will find u or u will find him but its bound to happen either way.

Answer 9

It's tough here in America. All kids have their own clicks, and they all have very big egos. You just have to hang in there,and don't try too hard. They'll come around,and once you're in, you're in. Good luck.

Answer 10

You just need to continue to be friendly and be yourself and you will meet some great people. Just give yourself some time to adjust and everything will fall into place.