ive been with my guy for almost 8 years.now with myspace some old gals he was friends with are coming back to say hey -is that cool ?i dont wanna over react but for 8 years i have pretty much had to cut out all my guy friends.
2006-11-12 13:30:31 · 14 answers · asked by tiffanyh2323 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you trust him yes just be careful, don't be nosy but if they want to hang out make sure he invites you. You and hopefully he wouldn't want to loose 8 years over a old fling.
2006-11-12 15:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that would all depend on how HE handles the situation. Does he talk to them behind your back, does he tell you about all of them, does he tell them about you, does he spend more time talking to them than you?Does he talk to the same ones all the time and a lot? Why is it that you don't have male friends if he has female friends? Did you give up your male friends because he wanted you to or cause you wanted too? What or how would he react if you was to look up some of your old male friends again just to say "hey"? I would keep a close watch on him and make sure he ain't doing something behind your back. But no I don't think it is cool for him to be doing that at all. Does he not have any male friends that he talks to?
2006-11-12 14:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are friends no matter what sex they are. Why did you dump all your male friends? It's only a problem if there is any lingering sexual interest or chemistry.
I've got male friends that I would never think of in that way, so there's no conflict with new partners in my life. At least I don't have a problem with it. I've been with a few guys that don't accept that my male friends are just that. Then it's their problem, not mine! I know my heart is true.
Your man needs to be cautious around old friends/girlfriends though... it's very tempting to look up 'old friends' if there are regrets or doubts about past actions, or unhappiness with a current situation.
2006-11-12 13:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!! but the one thing that you have to do is keep your man in check!! you can let him have friends with whom ever because if you don't then you will have a serious problem in the end! I'm not talking about be on of those girlfriends that's like "who was that on the phone" or "where were you" then than will make him resent you!! but keep an eye on him!! and you do not have to feel bad about having guy friends!! im sure that your boyfriend won't mind.....he shouldn't mind!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-12 14:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think that you can be the only woman in his life, if you have a rule where you pick his friends then you seem to question his trust, or do you think that you are such a bad wife that he would leave you? Trust him until he give you reason not to....... he should do the same for you
2006-11-12 13:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will say yes. BUT, it is human nature to wonder what if when in close company with the opposite sex. 30 years ago, when morals where stronger, it was OK. In to days values, no, unfortunately.
2006-11-12 13:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he made you cut your male friends then it's not fair for him to have female friends. Talk to him about it.
What is the point of being married if you don't trust your spouse enough for them to have friends of the opposite sex?
2006-11-12 13:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a man i suggest you make it know how you feel. if you make it seem like its okay hes going to think its okay we arent very smart you know. hes going to tell you they were friends back in the day but come on, put your self in that chicks place, you see this guy you knew way back what is your reaction?..... i wonder what he looks like now, or wait til he looks what i look like now. haha dont be stupid
2006-11-12 13:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a business level only, but on a personal level he should have only you, and the girls in the past should stay in the past. If they don't, then this is a problem.
2006-11-12 13:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is freaking funny. my HUSBAND (well according to him not any more) flat out told me he was going to have girl friends. i said ok. but i know my husband and he refuses to inform people (girls) that he is married. he likes the attention. well. we aren't together anymore. and i am sure it is b/c of one of those "girl friends" oh, i want to hate him so bad. does that even answer your question? sorry.
2006-11-12 13:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋