Me and my best friend like this same guy. We dont right over him. But i am afraid that one day we will. He is an 11th grader. His house burnt down. And we have been giving him money. And he gives us a hug when we give him money. Well i gave him some money thursday and he hugged me. When i told my best friend she seemed to be mad and a little upset. I feel like we are in a competition on who can give the most money to this guy as well. What do i do?
2006-11-12 12:58:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First off, I think it is great you are trying to help him out. Second, this may not be a good time for him right now having two girls fight over him...His house just burned down. Approach him first...maybe say, "I was wondering if you wanted to go to a movie or something." Or, "would you like to come over to dinner." Don't flirt with him too much because it might scare him away. As for your best friend, if you two fight over the same guy, and quit being friends over it, then you probably don't need to be friends. But think about this: What if doesn't like either one of you, but just as friends?? It would be pretty stupid to lose your best friend over. Say you and this guy go to a movie together and things develop and your friend gets jealous over that, the she really doesn't need to be your friend. Friends shouldn't be jealous of each other...especially over a guy. Good luck, and follow your heart to make the right decisions.
2006-11-12 13:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by freakykittygoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are so being manipulated. Stop giving him money it is just a way for him to work you two over for cash. I understand you are trying to help but he's OK trust me. This isn't your responsibility you're still a kid and this is more than you should be doing. If you really want to help see the counselor and ask if there is a way you can help anonymously so he doesn't feel indebted and you don't end up wondering if he is only with you out of gratitude. Pity parties make for bad relationships. Good Luck!
2006-11-12 21:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that she shouldn't be mad. you should be giving money because you have a kind heart not because your trying to compete with your best friend. since you'll like the same boy, you'll both need to leave him alone, because eventually you'll both will wind up fighting, or he would chose one of you'll and the other one will get mad and youll would not be friends anymore. I think you'll should talk it out. If u like him and dont care what she thinks than go ahead and have this competition on who he will pick but please remember boys come and go friends. Good luck
2006-11-12 21:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Fallin out of Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful little sister, he will wind up using you, stop giving him money and see how he treats you, bet you dont get anymore hugs!
2006-11-12 21:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋