I am now 19. When I was younger, a friend of mine and I (we are both male) used to touch each other. I sucked him off once, but that is the furthest we ever got. I now am confused as to what is going on in my desires. I think alot about having sex with men, hardly ever about woman, but it always seems that when I "relive" myself on those thoughts, I get repulsed by the idea of having sex with a man. I am contemplating having sex with a man once to see how I react, and deal with it from there because I cannot take this not knowing anymore. ANY THOUGHTS????
2006-11-12 12:48:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, you are not ready. You only have sex with someone that you are attracted to more than physically. You do not have sex with someone else so they can be your 'experiment'.
2006-11-12 12:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've got to agree with what someone else said- people are not guinea pigs. You don't use them as experiments to figure out your sexuality- people deserve better than that, not to mention that a sexual experience is ultimately at its most rewarding when you know that you are truly physically and emotionally attracted to the person (i.e. in love and lust, together). Just having sex with a man might be a terrible experience (making you think you're straight), but then, later on, you can fall in love with a guy and realize he (and the male form) is everything you've ever wanted. Make sense?
Well, anyways, I just don't think you're ready. But if you do decide to do it, make sure that you do it with someone you've known for at least some time (i.e. no strangers or one-night stands), someone you trust, and someone who knows exactly what the sex will mean: experimentation. That way there are no mixed feelings or expectations, and additionally, the guy can take extra time and care and try to make it as pleasurable as possible for you.
But, again- enjoying sex with someone doesn't make you that orientation- the desires you have do. So . . .
2006-11-12 13:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just young and you are going through a very common phase gay people usually go through.
You can either fight it and try to change, but be unhappy in the meantime and repressed, or let your self go. There is no rush and you can do it when you feel really ready and you find someone you are comfortable doing it with.
I used to hate my self, and I wanted to be straight, I thought I was cursed etc. etc....But someone once told me that I will grow up and see things in a different light, and I did, and now I am happier than ever.
Many people will offer you a way to "change" either by religion or by "therapy". It is hypocrisy of course and people just "change" because they dont have the strength to face their difference from the majority...no one actually asked how happy they are in the end of the day.
Take your time and be relaxed. You are still 19...when you become a bit more independent and mature you will see that it is not that bad after all.
2006-11-12 12:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by Nostromo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,im 22and honestly i didnt know what i was untill i turnt 19, i kept on looking at guys since i was about 15 and thought, hang on is this wrong??.... i thought to my self and it wasnt wrong it was who i am./ i lost my "gay virginity" at 19, it hurt a little bit for me but now, theres nothing i want more but to be with a man.. i have to admit that i have never had sex with a female and i dont intend to as i know who and what i want to be.. I wish you the best of luck for the future and Follow your heart is all i can really say. i did and i now have a loving boyfriend i couldnt be without.
2006-11-12 13:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have sex with a guy one more time to see how you like it. You went far enough to suck a guy off, so try a little further and see what you think
2006-11-12 15:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you will be able to take a deep breath and feel more relaxed about your situation. We should only be intimate with people we care about and who, in return, care about us. Find that person (male or female), build a good honest relationship, and then you will discover what your true calling is as a sexual person.
2006-11-12 12:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you know him and that he's clean, I'd recommend that with all sexual partners, and that he's mature enough to do this without harming your relationship. I'd really just recommend not doing it, never really liked the thought of casual sex, but it's your life.
2006-11-12 15:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It better if you satisfy your urged instead of thinking about it and bottling it inside. Either way you going to have sex someday, so why not do it when you young? You get more time to experiences it.
Ahhh what am i saying??? Do whatever you want.
2006-11-12 22:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by timbo_boi15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it...there is only one way to find out...I knew I was a lesbian when I was 7 so I've had an advantage.....life's too short to just wonder what would, could, have been.....I say go for it!!
2006-11-12 12:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Alimay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really have to ask then you aren't ready. Keep dreaming until the right guy cums along and you just can't help yourself. Then go for it.
2006-11-12 12:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Firebreather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋