2006-11-12 12:44:16 · 15 answers · asked by chikensnsausages 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't. If you can't deal with being civil to her (even if she's a nasty whorebag), you need to stay away from her at all costs. All you'll be doing is messing up the children if you don't. You have to be the bigger person and either find a way to deal with her or stay as far away as you possibly can, let your husband deal with her.
2006-11-12 12:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't exactly understand what you mean by dealing with her... but I say, whatever it is that you do, don't do it in front of the stepkids and don't let them know about it. One of these days I'm probably going to end up getting into it with my fiancee's ex wife (she's a whorebag aswell, lol. Small world..) ... I'm just going to make sure that little bodies aren't present. lol
2006-11-12 20:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is no way to "deal" with her without scarring the kids. You married yourself into the situation, and therefore you are going to just have to "turn the other cheek", as it were. You could, however, try talking to her when the kids aren't around and tell her that you will no longer be playing into her "freaky and nasty" tendancies because it is bad for the children. Then, like I said before, you will just have to ignore her as best as possible...
2006-11-12 20:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bad mouth her in front of the kids, remember no matter what kind of jerk she is, she is their mom. Your husband has to be the one to deal with her when it comes to the kids, period. Other wise you will be the bad guy. Just give her the civility you would give a stranger on the street. She starts anything walk away, and don't start anything with her. Be the bigger person no matter how skanky she is. Be a possitive role model for the kids sound like they might need it.
2006-11-12 20:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that still happening. but i have just been civil when i ave spoke to her not nasty about her around the kids but sometime enough is enough and that is when i get my partner to say something as they have had the relationship not you and her. believe me you dont want to make things to complicted as she can turn around and be really nasty. just ignore her and be civil when it is just you and your husband bag the crap out of her but not infron of the kids. good luck i know it is hard but if i can do it then so can you.
2006-11-12 20:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Emma G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, as long as your husband's kids are in his life, so will she. You can either learn to accept that this is the situation you married into and be civil about it or you get the hell out.
2006-11-12 21:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by jdhs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What exactly are you trying to deal with? Unless she is trying to come between you and your husband the only thing you can do is let your husband deal with her.
2006-11-12 21:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by Leila G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I dont think this is your issue. Unless she's attempting to come between your marrage but if this is just because she's your husbands ex. you dont need to get involved especially when it comes to her biological children. Be civilized about this and just be you!
2006-11-12 20:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should never say anything nagative about your step kids mother in front of them. if you do you will end up looking like the mad guy in this. your step kids will form their own opinion about their mother. it is your job to be step mother and let their mom alone.
2006-11-12 21:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck sister! i've been dealing with exes for 11 years, and it doesn't get any better. i'm thinking death will come soon and i'll be done
2006-11-12 20:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by kbrick13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋