Can't Let Go?

Question

I was dating a guy for 5 years, He recenlty told me he needs time, Though over the past few months he has asked me to marry him 3 times, and then changes his mind, He has since told me that he went out on dates, but yet tells my friends he can't let me go, He knows that i love him , and am finding it hard to move on, Any suggestion to get this man out of my mind and try to move on.

Answer 1

I think you need to give him the space he asks for. Let him miss you. Don't be so accessible...this way he can figure out how much you mean to him and how much he'd miss you if you weren't around.

Answer 2

Yeah, if you want to move on you have to stop talking to him (stop all communication). Give it a few months of no contact, and then check back in with your feelings.

Also take time to develop your interests, start a new excercise program maybe, get out with family and friends, make new friends, Stop talking about him as soon as you can.

If he's dating other people, do you think he really respects you or your relationship? Loving somebody is easy, even the wrong person. The trick is going to bet letting go completely and not becoming bitter with resentment along the way. Resentment is just another way of holding on.

One day you should be able to look back at this almost like it was a movie that happened to somebody else. You learned from it, but it isn't driving your actions and thoughts anymore. You have an opportunity to grow and mature enotionally from all of this.

Answer 3

Sweetie, this guy is a loser.

First, even if he were a keeper, who wants someone who changes his mind every day or so????

Second, he probably ain't into you any more, and just hangs around keeping you in suspense for the benefits. Nothing wrong with that if that's your only objective.

Now, to get him out of your mind, you need another man or some activities. My suggestions are:

1. Spend at least 1 hour a day at the library
2. Attend church
3. Spend at least 1 hour a day at the mall
4. Help someone every day
5. Take group dance lessons
6. Smile

Good Luck

Answer 4

The best thing to do is to cut him out of your life COMPLETELY. Don't take his calls, don't let him come over and don't let him talk to you through friends, because if you do allow these things to happen, you will be putting yourself back into the situation that makes you feel like you can't let go. Seriously, it's hard, but time is the only thing that will heal this wound, and you need to just cut him out of your life until time can fix things...

Answer 5

Just keep the facts present in thought, a long courtship, asks to marry 3 times and then CHANGES his mind ???????? Hello !!!!! With this in mind you will move on in no time.

Answer 6

Um he needs to be clear about what he wants. He he really loves you, you deserve that. Tell him to stop playing games or you move on and you need to do just that.

Answer 7

to get him out of your mind and move on, you have to get him out of your life. stop letting him play all these games with you. tell him that YOU want space and for him not contact you and when you are ready, you will contact him.

Answer 8

I guarentee, as soon as you decide to "move on" and start dating other guys, he'll make up his mind real quick.

Answer 9

He needs to figure himself out and not drag you along...
Only time will allow you to let him go...
Just keep going, honey! Keep waking up every morning...keep getting ready for work or school...whichever...keep calling your mom to see how her day was...keep eating dinner with good friends and family...keep going out on dates whenever you are asked...and...now...this one is important...keep loving and respecting...YOURSELF.

Answer 10

i wish i could answer this, cuz im in a similar situaton with my present g/f. if u figure this out let me know