OK so there is this girl that i have been friends with for 5 monthes now and i love her. i would do anything for her and over the last monthes being her friend i have seen my share of guys that she has dated and each time i felt terrible because i have had these strong feelings for her. i havent told her how i felt because i dident want to risk are friendship or make things weird between us because i would rather have her as just a friend then no have her in my life at all then two days ago she got into a new realtionship and it is alot different then the last because it is with another woman. she told me she was a lesbien because she cant trust guys anymore and i was hurt. i went home and watched chasing amy all day saturday until i memorized the speech that holden tells alyassa and she knew the speech very well because she loves the movie, she said it was the nicest thing anyone had ever done for her and she told me she may be bi sexual so what can i do to make her know i love her?
2006-11-12 12:35:58 · 5 answers · asked by Unrated 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you tell her, your friendship will never be exactly the same due to her knowing your attraction to her. If you don't tell her, it could be something that you will regret and will eat away at you, and from what you have said it is already really bothering you. Even though it could alter your friendship, you can't keep acting that you are only interested in her as a friend. Since you care about her so much to memorize a speech for her I don't think it is something that you can keep from her much longer, so go ahead and tell her. She has already told you that she is both a lesbian and bi, so I don't know how interested she will be but at least you will have told her and not keep asking yourself why you haven't done so yet.
2006-11-12 12:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are headed for a train-wreck. If she has been in several different relationships in five months, it doesn't sound like she is ready to offer you the kind of relationship and love you would want from her. Add to that the fact that she is still exploring her sexual orientation. I would say that if you are this emotionally invested before you are even dating, that getting more involved may not be the way to go at this point.
However, I could be wrong. All I know about the situation is what you wrote.
2006-11-12 20:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by the guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just be straight forward and tell her that you love her. i know that i was in male relationships like hers and i always felt gay. i went out with this guy that i had been high school friends with and when we didnt make it i turned to chicks. although that is definately it for me you appear to have a chance if she thinks she is bi.
i just want to tell you to do it. if your friendship is strong then it will last - i still talk to my ex and hes my best male friend. you may be the one she is looking for and she just doesnt know it. i guess if she says no you stay friends if you are both ok with that. no harm in trying.
2006-11-12 21:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u want a women that is bi-sexual? u got a problem?
2006-11-12 20:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just kiss her.
2006-11-16 14:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by maurice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋