How often should we be having sex?

Question

Married 4 1/2 years, dated for 5. Both of us 35. No children.

Please give an answer based on personal experience or the like.

Answer 1

Let's see... We have been married for 4 years and we have two children and do it 1-2 times a week. I think that is normal for most couples. Since you have no children I would aim for 2-3 times a week. But the question is not how often should we but how often do we WANT to have sex.

Answer 2

Every couple is different . There is no magic number.
For some couples, once a week is a dismal answer and means their relationship is falling apart. For other couples, once a week is more than enough to keep their relationship alive.

It depends on how often it was when you first started dating. After about 5 years you should expect it to be about half as often as that. Actually probably less and it should be ok. Once you have kids for most couples it becomes once a month or less.

You're fine as long as it isn't something like twice a year - then you have a problem.

BUT that being said - the fact that you are asking means that something has made either you or your partner feel like you aren't having enough. Do you think it's not enough? Did one of your friends or relatives say something and now you are comparing yourself to them? If you are happy with it then don't EVER worry about any other couples. However, if one of you feels like it isn't enough - then you should talk about it and possibly seek counseling. If one of you has a low drive the other wants more - then maybe you can talk to a doctor about some solutions.

Answer 3

The question is not how often should you be having sex, it's how often would you like to have sex. People have different tastes when it comes to sex, and what is alot for one person is too little or just right for another. Are you or your husband unsatisfied with the quality or quanity of sex? If not, talk to each other. It may help to have a date night or to try some new things in the bedroom. If you are satisfied, then great. You shouldn't let other people tell you your sex life is not enough if it's good for both of you.

Answer 4

Well if u have no kids then u have the house to yourselves a lot, so I would say 3-5 times a week.

Answer 5

As many times it takes to be satisfied I guess. When I was 35, we had sex once a week, of course under protest. Now I am 41 and divorced. I miss the once a week gig! lol

Answer 6

I think that 2 or 3 times a week, on average (assuming there will be times when one or both of you are sick, or it's that time of the month). I actually spoke with a friend about this who is good friends with a sex therapist, and she said if she had to "average" things it would be 2 to 4 times per week depending upon the couple.

Answer 7

There is no "should" except for what is desirable and realistic for the both of you. Don't feel pressured by what the outside world tells you. I have read that the average for a married couple is 3 or 4 times a week. That sounds about right for me.

Answer 8

you can have sex as much as you and him decide on. i am 19 and my husband is 34 and we have sex about every other day almost. some people have a high sex drive and want it all the time. some people twice a week is good enough. there is no set sex meter. i mean don't go crazy where it then starts to hurt but it's how you feel.

Answer 9

All couples are different , most people tell you what they would like to be
having not what they are getting . The thirtys should be pretty good though
Women are at their peak or at least begining to peak .
I'd say an average of 2 to 3 times a week .

Answer 10

It should be whenever is comfortable for both of you without leaving the other one wanting for too long. When my husband is home for long periods we do it no less than once a week & we have 2 kids & his mom that live with us. Oh and we've been together for a total of 12 years & in our mid 30s