I really love this guy I have been going out with him for 3 years and I am totally responsible and I love him me and him have talked about condoms and birth control and we feel ready to have it but I don't no if its safefor my age?
2006-11-12 12:28:23 · 24 answers · asked by chazelly_7 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You're smart to question whether it's good for you or not. It is your decision and you should be certain that you want to before you do. And, IF you do, please please please use protection. The consequences of unprotected sex are life altering.
2006-11-12 12:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by paleblueshoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take it from a guys point of view. We will do anything to talk you into having sex. We really want to have sex with a virgin so we can have the extra mark on the old belt. At your age your boyfriend will be on the phone the moment you're out of sight telling the buds what a Ho you are. So don't just be easy money girl. Wait til you get past scholl at least. Maybe you will run into mister right along the way and he will wait til the time is right. I'm a old guy and I still wish I had a virgin in my day. I think I would love my wife more if I knew I was the only one, if thats possible. We have been together for 30years, and she great just wasn't the virgin I should of had, cause some dog talked her out of them panties before I met her. It's reallt funny I'm writing on this, I was just thinking about it on the way home yesterday. I missed out, don't let your life partner miss out. Wait it will come around and be a good time for you. Plus at 15 he isn't going to know how to last more than 2-3mins anyway. It your viginity really only worth a 3mins encounter?
Good Luck
2006-11-13 01:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by clr36 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Physically, there is no danger in a 15 year old girl having sex IF you take proper precautions (and as you mentioned you discussed this with your BF, so I suspect you know how to use condoms - protection for pregnancy and STDs. )
Just having talked about it with your BF already makes you more mature than a lot of women in their twenties that don't talk about protection with their BF. Protection and talking isn't all that commonly used among much older women either when it comes to sex, unfortunately .
Then of course there is the law - there is the question of age of consent. The law doesn't care if you are mature or not, the age matters. In general, age of consent for heterosexual sex in the US is 16 (some states allow it at 14, others at 18). So sex with you might mean breaking the law for your BF.
I don't know what you will do, but I do admire your cool head - you have thought about this, talked with your BF and are not running into it blindly. I hope my little niece will be as mature as you when the time comes.
Just a minute later -
I just read what "tutie m" wrote and I wholeheartedly back her advice. It does strike me as a great compromise - and it is backed by personal experience.
2006-11-12 21:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you and your bf think you are very much in love, however at your age it is 'basic training' for a more mature adult love in the future. Your hormones are raging, he's probably looking pretty good, but...and this is a BIG but...usually someone under 18 is not emotionally ready for many reasons.
Now, having said that, let me continue with another side of this. Morally, it is not right and later you will probably regret doing it. How do I know, I was a teenager once and I don't have those regrets, but know many of my friends do. You see, I chose not to have sex with my bf's and am really glad I waited until I was engaged at 19. That's another story, I certainly don't advocate people that young getting married like I did at 21.
Life is a choice, choose wisely and you will have a good life. Take care honey, have a great life.
2006-11-12 20:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you yourself are doubting to have sex or not then you shouldn't. You are only 15 years old. You have your whole life ahead of you. What would you do if you got pregnant? Yes you can still get pregnant while on birth control and the condom. Will your boyfriend stay by your side? Will he tell you to get an abortion? Or will you be a 15 year old mother who had to drop out of school because she thought she was ready for that one night of sex. That one night of sex can change your life till the day you die. Have you thought of STD's? Just think about what your doing before you do it,because once you do it you can't go back.
2006-11-13 03:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by heartyangel98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to support a baby if an accidental pregnancy occurs then you would be ready to commit to having sex. If you are not ready to support a baby if you accidently got pregnant in spite of birth control then the answer is no. Age is not the real question here it is whether you feel ready to have sex. Talking about it and doing it though are two very different things so be sure you are totally ready to take this next step in your life and be sure you are ready to handle an accidental pregnancy if one would occur.
2006-11-12 20:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to be very frank & honest with you. Wait, wait, wait. From a physical standpoint yes your body is mature enough to have sex, but it takes a lot of learning to really enjoy it. He will definitely enjoy it & more than likely it will be over before it actually starts, especially if he's not sexually active. It's mature of the two of you to discuss birth control & condoms but neither are a guarentee that you won't get pregnant. Believe me I've been there & my bf loved me too, until I got pregnant. He also got another girl pregnant too at the same time & married her all before I had my baby. Our children are 4 months apart (mine is older). Our children just graduated high school & started college together. Your parents or clergymen may not agree with my next peice of advice, but if you must become sexually active. Do so in other ways beside intercourse. By all means use protection, but the two of you can try mutual masturbation & oral sex. Those are good ways to be intimate with your loved one & also gain sexual gratification. But there's no risk of pregnancy & a low risk of STD. I've been married for 7 yrs now & my husband & I don't always have intercourse, sometimes we use the techniques I mentioned above and believe me it's very satisfing, sometimes more so than intercourse. Although you two are probably too young to have access to adult toys but if you have a trusted adult, parent, or friend who is willing to purchase those things for you in order for you to abstain from full blown intercourse I'd say try those things. You can still save yourself & protect yourself & still attain orgasms. Just be realistic and look at all your options, don't just limit yourself to intercourse, especially right now. By the way, I would give this same advice to my daughters & step-daughter as well. I'm not an ignorant parent & I know you guys have raging hormones & curiosity, protect yourself & be wise. Good Luck & abstainence from intercourse but not orgasm & intimacy.
2006-11-12 21:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing is a good indication that you shouldn't. Children your age are not prepared for a step like this. While you may think "well everyone is doing it" it's not always what you think it is. Best advise I can give you, is to wait. You will have plenty of time to experience this. When you are ready, you will know. Please do not rush. You will regret it. When you are older and more mature you will make love with someone you care about, and who cares about you, not have sex because you think you should.
2006-11-12 20:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by SCORPIO 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are having trouble figuring out if you should do it or not chances are you are not ready. I have no problem with your age and having sex. Yeah, most will say to wait until you are married but it never happens like that. I am all for it if you know what you are getting yourself into. At the same time you arnt convinced you really want to. You dont want to do it and regret it later. When its time you will know. Now doesnt seem like the time. Good luck!!!
2006-11-12 20:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by angel l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got plenty of time, so wait!!! You don't even have your drivers license yet! Wait till you both do a little more maturing and if you did end up pregnant, it won't be good for...well anything at your age. I agree, if you're questioning whether you should do it or not, then you shouldn't do it. That is a sure sign that you're not ready.
2006-11-13 15:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by puoL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE ONLY PERSON WHO KNOWS THIS ANSWER IS YOU! its great that you guys have talked about sex and protection. you should also know its not 100% pregnancy-proof. if i was you, id wait til you're 18 to have sex. in the meantime, your boyfriend and you could try other things such as oral sex. dont go all the way until you can financially support yourself and a baby, if you happen to get pregnant.
2006-11-12 20:41:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋