I am a single mom of an almost 7-year-old. I don't have family, and I'm not in a relationship, so I have been letting my son go to his father's family which leaves me alone.
I used to have friends when I was younger that would invite me for the holidays, but as it is, my best friend is my ex-boyfriend and I don't get invited to any of his functions, purely for the sake of being the ex.
I'm tired of being alone, and I feel the depression of it all looming early. I don't want to be alone again.
What do you do, alone, for the holidays?
2006-11-12 12:22:57 · 13 answers · asked by thedalaimama 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
I have been alone for the holidays for a couple of years now and yes, it can be depressing -- when I allow myself to be (was actually feeling it a bit today, myself). In the past, I chose to make the day about myself and being good to myself with all of my favorite things -- food, movies, a good book (great wine) -- include those things that you love in your day. A day to -- first recognize the holiday, of course -- and then pamper myself and appreciate all that I do have rather than focus on what's missing.
Some people deal with loneliness by giving to others -- I plan to spend Christmas this way. Others need to take care of themselves before they can give to another.
Spend your day by doing those things that are important to you. If spending time with your son is important and he happens to be with his father's family -- then make it about your son and plan/create a fun surprise for his return.
2006-11-14 04:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by DDA430 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you. I'm going to be alone this Thanksgiving, just as I have been for many. Well this year, I'll have my two toddler boys with me; they're 2 and 3 years old. My husband is in Afghanistan and my family is far away. No one has invited me over, and I wouldn't go anyway if someone had invited me. This year, I plan on treating Thanksgiving like any other day that I'm alone. When the boys take a nap, I'm going to read a book or jump on the computer. If you're into walking, why don't you bundle up and stroll around the neighborhood? To keep yourself from being depressed about the here and now, think about the future and how you plan on making next years Thanksgiving totally different. Another thing, think about what the holiday is all about - being thankful for what we have. You might be alone, but I'm sure you have your health, a roof over your head, a healthy seven year old child who has an involved father. This list can go on and on. Why don't you start writing it down now: your list of the things you're thankful for. Take care. Keep your head up.
2006-11-12 12:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ma, I so enjoyed analyzing this. some years in the past, after my divorce, my ex got here and have been given the lads for Thanksgiving. Having relocated to "his" place of birth I had no person to spend the day with, my kinfolk being 550 miles away. So, i desperate to bypass to ok-Mart and walk around. I keep in mind noticing the different "shoppers" who have been all like me, lonely human beings, with out place to bypass. nicely, i offered my Little Caesar's pizza and went residing house. I vowed from then on out that if i became into ever on my own on a trip that i could paintings at a soup kitchen and on no account sense sorry for myself lower back. It replaced the way I lived my existence. p.s. love all the staggering responses!
2016-10-17 05:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by mctaggart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it get you. I have been alone for a long time and I have turned these holiday blues around by spending them helping other people. I volunteer for local charity programs and it gives me a chance to be with others while actually celebrating in a way that makes me feel better about myself, not sad. Now, after having done that for a while, I am not along any more. In fact, my main squeeze and I met working the soup line together. :)
2006-11-12 12:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Gee honey if you were in southern California I'd take you out for Thanksgiving, you and your son. My sisters are going to be elsewhere and my parents have both passed away. I'm on a very strict diet so I might not do anything *laughing*....but I may go to church to serve....they have an open buffet all day, you can come and have a meal there. One cure for loneliness is to go visit those who are also lonely; a hospital, etc. May God bless you and comfort you and give you peace.
2006-11-12 12:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can come over to my family's house for Thanksgiving! We always have fun and usually a few people over who are alone for the holiday.
Ever think of inviting someone over who may be alone otherwise, too? You could contact meals on wheels or a nursing home or ?
An idea for you!
2006-11-12 15:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thought I was going to be alone, no family here, but a few of us in the apartment building are cooking turkeys and sharing.
2006-11-12 13:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being alone is one of the worst feelings in the world, true. If you think about it like that, it will be like that. Try to figure something out to keep your mind off it. Hell, if you have a phone, call up some friends just to talk. They'll take your mind off things.
:-),
Dave
2006-11-12 12:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by theoneyoucometo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm also alone for the holidays and I don't really care. Most of the people I know annoy me anyways and I rather be by myself.
2006-11-12 12:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Harold 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Join evening classes, you might meet someone there. Or get a second job where there is contact with people.
2006-11-12 13:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by tiger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋