How do you talk more interestingly?

Question

(please, no little kids answer this question)This sounds like a stupid question, but how do you put more pizzaz in the way you speak? For example, i look at one girl and she has the most to say, but no one is interested in what she is saying because she sounds boring in the way she speaks, she as the same boring tone and facial expressions.....But yet i look at this other girl and she says a few simple things, but yet it is INTeresting because she has PIZZAZ in the way she speaks! How do i talk more interestingly so i can say few words and people will be fine with it?

Answer 1

I am that dull person with no expression in real life, although I can open up when I feel like it.

We quiet types like to examine other people alot. If I am listening to a conversation to which I have nothing to add, then often I just zone out and stop listening, and I start examining facial expressions and body language of people around the group.

One thing I notive is that if you want people to listen to you, eyes are of key importance. Eyes can show a full range of emotion all by themselves. If you want proof go see a Blue Man Group peformance. They never speak, and never move their faces at all. They let their eyes tell the story, and the effect is fantastic. Do the same in coversation. Open your eyes wide, and look interested in what you have to say!

Be confident, and smile. Jokes add colour to your words, but don't tell the wrong joke to the wrong audience.

Using your hands to emphasize your expression can be a good tool, but don't overdo it. An example of overdoing it would be using your fingers as little puppets to act out everything you're saying (that may seem a bit extreme, but I know someone like that).

Answer 2

Yes, charismatic people are more interesting to listen to. And, certainly, people who drone on & on are dead boring. I think pepole are interested in others who are genuinely interested in them. Talk about subjects that will interest the listener & get them involved in conversation. Humor is important...nothing controversial. I think reading the body language of those around you is important. I'll bet if the droner looked at the expressions of those around her she'd tone down the yammering.

Answer 3

dont talk loudly, because then you will sound full of yourself. just speak as if youre happy and with a positive attitude. smile too. you dont need an impressive vocabulary, just dont talk like a robot. as long as you have a cheerful tone and you say nice things, you can have the world. :)

Answer 4

what do you favor? no person's utterly dull... what's it that lighting your eyes up? song, artwork, desktops, writing? if you're taking time to discover out what make you tick and what tickles you, you'll be your self and humans with the identical pursuits can be interested in you.

Answer 5

How to Have Better Conversations
Some time back I noticed two things:

* I enjoy good conversations
* I want to have more good conversations
These are some reasons that people converse:

* Conversation brings back memories from your own life.
* It validates your experiences and opinions and makes you feel understood and accepted.
* It gives you knowledge about a subject you’re interested in. For example, what it’s like to live in South Africa, how it feels to be a parent etc.
* It sparks ideas in you for improving your life, business or hobbies.
* It gets you something you want.
* It gives you the satisfaction that comes from convincing (or trying to convince) someone to change their opinion on some subject.
* The feeling of satisfaction you get from helping someone feel better.
* The power you feel for making someone feel bad. This is obviously not a good motive for conversation, but it is a real one nonetheless.
* Conversation is a way to sort out your thoughts and feelings. By talking to someone who cares enough to listen, you often get the time and perspective needed to better understand yourself.
* It’s an escape from stress and monotony. A way to laugh and lighten things up.

While most of these are valid reasons to have conversation, they don’t directly indicate what makes a good conversation. Ideally at the end of a conversation both people should leave looking forward to the next conversation. Before going on to how to have a good conversation, here are a few things that make conversation unenjoyable.

* You didn’t feel listened to. The other person either didn’t stop talking long enough for you to speak, or when you were talking they were too busy thinking about the next thing they were going to say to hear what you were saying.
* You didn’t feel understood. Despite the fact that the other person was listening intently, you didn’t feel like he or she actually understood what you were saying.
* You felt manipulated. The other person tried to get you to do or say something you didn’t want to do or say.
* Gossip. While tempting, gossip generally does not lead to a good conversation. It destroys trust–how can you be sure the other person isn’t gossiping about you?
* Intellectual inequality. It’s hard (but not impossible) to have a good conversation if one party perceives the other as less (or more) intelligent. While this can still lead to a valuable and interesting exchange, it often does not.
* Lack of common views. This can go both ways. If both parties to the conversation respect each other’s intelligence, differences in politics, religion, culture etc. can make for very interesting conversation and debates. On the other hand, if there is a lack of respect or extreme differences, conversation can become uncomfortable.

Knowing what makes conversation good and bad, we can draw some conclusions about what to do in order to have a good conversation. Here’s the good stuff.

* Don’t be selfish. It sounds harsh, but it’s not as obvious or easy as it seems. Conversation is give and take. There are times when you should listen and times to talk. Doing too much of either is not conducive to good conversation. Listen carefully to the other person then state your opinions after you understand theirs. Even if you are giving advice or teaching someone something, the listening/talking ratio should generally be around 50/50. In the end, the time you feel like you’re “giving up” to listen leads to better conversation. Everyone wins.
* Prepare for good conversation. Read widely. If you know you’ll have a chance for a conversation, learn about the interests of the person you’ll be talking with. Keep up with the news. Broaden your knowledge. This not only will help you have interesting subjects to bring up, but it will help you understand the context of the conversation without interrupting it to ask for a definition. It’s is called cultural literacy.
* Don’t manipulate, or in other words, be honest and up-front. For the most part, people will immediately recognize when they are being manipulated. You may get away with it, but the chances that the person will look forward to their next conversation with you are slim.
* Reciprocate. If someone shares details about their life, it is natural for them to expect for you to do the same thing. It’s not good if after a conversation someone feels that they’ve laid their life bare before you and know nothing about you. The opposite is true as well.
* Avoid gossip and complaining. Both of these things are extremely easy to do and both lead to negative, empty feelings afterwards.
* Don’t be afraid to differ. Conversation is boring if everyone agrees. If you don’t agree, say you don’t and explain why.
* Know and use your sense of humor in moderation. Figure out what’s natural for you and go with it.

Answer 6

use expressions in your face when something exciting happens or hand motions...also don't use a dull tone...sound excited about what you are talking about and they'll be excited too!

Answer 7

Tone.
Expression.
Use big words like truculent and experientially...
Be passionate, say it like you mean it!

Answer 8

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