Do you think it's okay for a girl to be a mom before she's 18?

Question

Cause i'm 16 with a little boy and he doesn't have a father

Answer 1

Life happens. I don't think it's ideal but I don't think it's a crime.

Answer 2

If it happens it happens. But it shouldn't be chosen at that age.
Teen pregnancies have more risks than some one older would have.

Can you afford to support yourself and the baby? Will the baby be better off if you waited a few years?

I am not sure if you are the male or the female. But, in this world you can sit back and be poor and live on welfare or you can grow up and get some education and make something of yourself.

Don't tell me you can't afford an education. I payed my own way through college. I know homeless guy who got college grants and is educated and way above the poverty line which his family was under.

If you want good things in life you need to work for them. If you need to break the cycle or pattern your family has, then be the one who breaks the pattern. Make a better world for your children.

You have no idea how much life you have ahead of you.

I am 56. Lets say you have a baby at 18, by the time you are my age your child will be 38 years old and if they have a child at 18, they will have a 20 year old and that person has a child at 18, they have a 2 year old. And that two year old will have a child in 16 years. WOW

You could be a great-great great great grandma before you die.

Hon, there is much more to live than sex and guys who break your heart and you can't depend on them. Find a purpose in your life and have a goal.

If your goal is to be pregnant before 18, then your goal is to be stuck at home, most likely in poverty, while the rest of your friends are out having fun and getting educations so that they can support themselves when they become young adults.

You have far more choices and control of you life than you can ever imagine.

If you are pregnant now, and can't keep the baby there are many families who can't have children and they can adopt your baby and give that child a good life.

Answer 3

I have a girlfriend who had a baby at 15 (before I met her). She wasn't sure it was the right thing but she wanted to go ahead. Eight years later she is a GREAT mom. Somebody I talked to a lot when I first became pregnant. Though I was 22 at the time and had other friends with kids she was the first person I asked any questions to. Also, once my son was born. I say if it feels right for you go for it. But talk to people and ask questions. It's not like babysitting; you don't get to leave. Good luck.

Answer 4

I say that it depends. If the girl is planning on being on welfare, then, probably no. I had my first child at 19 and I worked a full time job. I paid his daycare. Paid my bills. Bought food and had my own place. I think that If you are going to make something of it and not rely on mom and dad or the state, that it wouldn't be bad.

But it seems like you are doing okay. Your file says that you are 15 with a 7 month little boy and a hot mexican boyfriend. I hope that he is taking care of you.

Answer 5

It is a really hard thing to do. But if one understands that in choosing to bring a life into this world you are responsible for taken care of this person. There is no time for hang overs every weekend and partys every night. There are diapers and clothing to be bought so things that you need or want are put to the side. There is no more hanging out on a main street or driving around with your teenage friends at stupied a clock at night because your baby needs to be home and in bed.
When having a child you need to be ready to put there needs infront of your own.. And this when you are 17 isn't easy to do but it can be done.

Answer 6

I think it is absolutely fine. I am 17 and having a little boy in a few months. I respect you completely. Don't listen to anyone who tells you any different. At least you are taking care of your son and not just abandoning him. People should learn to have more respect for younger moms.

Answer 7

If she is financially stable, then it is a good thing. And if the father is around, that's good too. A single mom is just as capable, but lots of things would have to be given up for this child..

Answer 8

It depends on the maturity of the woman. Everybody human clock to start a family is different for everyone. If you feel that you are ready to take on responsibilities of motherhood then I say its ok. But if you feel like not taking motherhood responsibities I would hold off until you are ready.

Answer 9

It all depends on how mature the person is. I know someone who had a baby at 25 and was not ready and not a good mom. I know someone else who had a baby at 14 and is the best mom ever.

Answer 10

only if she is ready to put her baby at #1 and forget about going out and partying...as you should be spending all of your time and money on your child. and if you plan on going to college to get a career and support your child FOREVER, make sure you will have help when it comes time to be in class two or four days per week. when it comes time to turn 21 you might not have any money or friends that dont have kids. be prepared to sacrifice that time when everyone else is out at bars and clubs...anyone can make a good mom, just think about the future and be sure your willing to give up ALOT to give your child the best future possible GOOD LUCK!

Answer 11

No, she would not be mature enough or be able to financially support the child.

And actually, "in England between 1500 and 1700 the median age of first marriage for women was twenty-six."
Only royalty got married at a very young age for political reasons, and they usually didn't consumate the marriage until they were older. http://www.snopes.com/language/phrases/1500.htm