Women, do you hate when you man.........................?

Question

I was just wondering if any other women out there have this problem? I have caught my husband on several occasions "releasing" himself. He knows that if he wants some, all he has to do is just come to me. What makes me really upset, is that when we have a night to ourselves, he'd rather do "that'' than make love to his wife(me). I have told him that this hurts my feelings, and that it makes me feel unattractive on several occasions. But again, it continues. Am I the only one?

We do have sex, and we both love each other very much. I just dont understand that if Im willing and waiting, why does he have to do this?

Answer 1

I've caught my husband doing it frequently also. We had a talk about it though and he told me sometimes he just doesnt feel like sex because he needs release and just wants to get it over with. I actually woke up one night and he was releasing himself while watching a porno on mute. I freaked out about it. I love pleasing him and it offends me too. Although I can kind of relate to why he does it without me sometimes because I do it without him sometimes too. I just dont want to have sex sometimes. it seems though that he doesnt want to have sex with you at all...and if that is what your saying, let him catch you a few times...if it doesnt make him jump your bones right then...I guess the only thing to do is look into couples therapy. Some guys are actually addicted to masterbating.

Answer 2

oh lord no your not the only one! i thought i was! My husband does this too and yes it hurts my feelings and it makes me feel not attractive enough. i asked him why he does it and he said b/c sometimes he wants a "release" without having to go through all the foreplay etc. I hope he was telling me the truth. I dont think there's really anything else you can do since you've let him know how you feel. Does he act the same toward you (loving, etc.)? if he isn't then there may be something else going on if u know what i mean. also, there could be intimacy issues. Maybe he's bored of the same ol' thing. try spicing up your sex life a bit and see what happens.

Answer 3

Men like to masturbate. Heck, so do women. I'm married..have been happily for almost 8 years, and I still "release myself" frequently. It's not that I don't want my husband, and we make love frequently as well. Sometimes I'm just in the mood for something quick and want that immediate satisfaction.

It isn't about you. Really.

What IS a problem, however, is when he'd rather do that than make love to you on a night where you have time alone together. If it were me, I'd tell him "If you want to masturbate any other time, I'm cool with that. Hell, we can do it together if you want. (mutual masturbation can be fun). But when we have time alone together, I'd prefer we make love TOGETHER."

If he still won't cooperate, maybe you both need to get some marital counselling to figure out what's going on.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

From what I understand, alot of men "release" themselves regularly. Its not always about sex, sometimes its tension or stress, and its simply a physical thing. But if he'd rather do that than make love, it sounds like there are intimacy issues that need to be addressed, and you both have to start being honest with each other about what those are.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, this is just something that men do. It's not that he doesn't enjoy being with you, because I'm sure that he doesn, but I think there are times when pleasuring himself is probably easier and faster. It's natural, and as long as your sex life isn't suffering--meaning that you are still having sex a reasonable amount of the time (3 to 4 times a week),--then you shouldn't worry about it.

Answer 7

Trust me you are not the only one. My husband and I had to sit down and talk about this on more than one occasion. Do not let it hurt you, I did for a long time and I just got over it.

Answer 8

Here's my take on it. As long as our sex life isn't affected by it, I have no reason to be upset with him if he so chooses to have his time with himself.

The only time I would have a problem is if he'd rather do that than have sex with me and thank God this isn't the case in my marriage.

Answer 9

All men "release themselves"..it's just what they do, but I do have a problem with the man that would rather do that than have the real thing. Maybe he has a fear of intimacy or something. Let him catch you masterbating and see how he feels.

Answer 10

I agree, my husband had the same habbit, it wasn't as bad as him prefering himself than me but if he were home alone and I was work it wasn't like he could wait until I got home. NO, he needed it right then and there! Until I finnally threated to leave him because it was brining me down.