im 16 and pg, im on the cheerleading squad i get good grades and my boyfriend is going to go to school to be a marine biologist ... this paints a picture in your head... i have alot ahead of me .. and im pregnant my boyfriend and friends want me to get me aborted but i just dont think i can let go please help me.. i just dont no what to do!
2006-11-12 10:39:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
IF U WANA KEEP HIM THEN GO AHEAD AND TELL THOSE WHO WANT U TO ABORT TO BE THANKFUL THEIR MOTHERS DIDNT THINK LIKE THAT. FIGHT FOR YOUR BABY. IF U REALLY WANT HIM AND DONT GIVE UP IN LIFE
YOU CAN DO SOMETHING, AND LATER THOSE WHO TOLD U TO ABORT WILL BE SORRY.. I'M GLAD U DISAGREE WITH THEM.. GOOD LUCK..
2006-11-12 15:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone talk you into an abortion. It can never be taken back and the memory will live with you forever and especially when you eventually do have a baby. It has to be your decision. There are places that can help young pregnant teens. Try contacting one. They can tell you about adoption and raising the baby on your own. (with support) You can still live your dreams with a baby. (it will be much harder though--I did it) Or you can put them on hold for a few months until you have the baby and give it a new home-- you can have an open adoption and stay in touch.
If you choose to abort just make sure it was your decision.
Your friends will not be the ones living with your decision.
2006-11-12 18:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE Don't get an abortion..!! I was 15 when I became a parent and it changes your life, but not by much..As long as u have a good support system, then you'll do fine...I cant believe your boyfriend wants u to kill his and ur child. Tell him to go srew off sumwhere, that u dont need him! I was lucky I guess b/c i had a great support system and my boyfriend stayed with me the whole time! plus, if u dont think u can care for a child, then there are plenty of couples out there who can't have children who would love to have yours. But on the other hand, it's your body, your choice..follow your heart, and PLEASE dont listen to what others tell u to do.
2006-11-12 22:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no to abortion. Please, dont resort to that. Its not that Im being an old fashioned folk, its because we are talking about life and death of an innocent being. A mistake cant be corrected by commiting another mistake.
Have you reached your parents? Do you have friends that can help you? Do you have guys around you that would be man enough to take responsibility to what your good bf cant take care of (i know this is bad but then if your current bf cant take care of you and take the responsibility manly right now how sure are you that he will take care of once you are in trouble again?)?
Also you can reach a government or a non-government body that helps troubled persons. a problem like this is best taken care of by having someone you can help you. reach someone who can. i hope this have helped.
2006-11-12 23:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't go through with the abortion!! Remember, no matter what anybody says, that is a real life growing inside of you. Think of what he/she will grow up to be like, imagine holding the baby in your arms. I know you're young and you have a life ahead of you but an innocent baby doesn't deserve to be killed over that.
You said it yourself. You don't want the abortion and believe me it's not as easy as walking into the doctor's office and walking out. It'll mess with your head and you'll probably fall into depression. I've had friends to go through with it and it wasn't a pretty sight. And don't listen to your friends, i mean i understand they're your friends but they're not the ones carrying a living child. They're looking from the outside in instead of thinking of the situation from yours or the child's point of view.
If YOU don't want the baby, theirs always adoption. Atleast a life will be saved in the process. All I'm asking is that you don't kill the baby just because "someone else" says you should. There are plenty of good parents out there who would be more than willing to help take the child in and help you if no one else is up for the task. THINK HARD before you go through with it.
2006-11-12 18:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by BJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u want to keep the baby then keep it, it will make life MUCH harder trust me ive been down that road but there are benfits too. Also if ure not comfortable with giving it up for abortion (which i dont blame u) then u can bare the child and give it up for adotion too. There are plenty of couples who can not have children who would love to have a healthy baby. And this would be a ood option for u also because abortions damage the uterus over time and make it harder for u to concieve later
2006-11-12 18:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared for you, he'd not want you to kill his child or yours. Screw them. Tell your parents and hope they support you and the baby. Sex is an adult responsibility and so is parenthood. Just because your life will change doesn't mean it will suck. It will just be different. Having a kid as a teen altered my life alot, but looking back I'm grateful. She's a wonderful kid and I'd have not been able to live with not giving her a chance at life. Its time to start making mature decisions. That baby inside you is counting on its mommy.
2006-11-12 18:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your situation. Please realize that this life inside of you deserves a chance. There are many couples out there who would love to have a child, but are unable, myself included. Please look into adoption. You really don't want to live the rest of your life with the memory of this child you aborted when you were but a child still yourself. You did an adult thing, and got pregnant. Continue to do the adult, responsible thing, and put this child up for adoption.
Good luck.
2006-11-12 18:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by miss_fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it doesn't matter what your friends want it matters what you and your boyfriend wants if you want to keep this baby keep it a child is a blessing not a curse talk to your parents you can still go to collage and raise a baby they have baby day care and you can work out your scudle that when you go to collage you can leave the baby at daycare and go to school or you can do online collage.
2006-11-12 19:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop talking to your friends and boyfriend, and talk to your mom or another adult. Unfortunately, none of the "choices" you have at this point are easy ones. You need to decide where you see yourself in 5 years and what you want to think about yourself when you look back at this time in your life. An adult will help you think this through.
2006-11-12 18:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋