i feel lonely?

Question

and isolated tonight, wondering how im gonna achieve my ambitions in life. how im going to get over my psychological probs..my psychiatrist said last week i have a personality disorder not a mental illness, he said he wouldnt perscribe me any medication because alot of its addictive and once i got used to it it wouldnt work....i have problems with anger to work through inner rage, my self esteem is very low, paranoid ideas, racing thoughts. high anxiety and panic..im 29 now and i wonder how im going to find security and love in my life, how im going to find employment, and live in a nice place...how im going to face and deal with reality? i dont even wanna stay here in britain i would like to emmegrate, but at the moment i feel trapped that my ambitions will never happen..or their to far away from me. i dont want this..i live in a small flat on benifits in a rough area i dont like, and i wonder how im going to achieve what i really want?? i wish i could be rescued from this

Answer 1

Do like most of the rest of society. Pull yourself up by the boot straps and just do it. No one is holding you back but you. Make a plan and stick to it. You can do it.
Continue your counsel.

Answer 2

You need to get a second opinion, as not all medications are additive. Some personality disorders (and most people have them, slight or worse) need medication, and medication can be monitored. You will not be addicted, unless you find a way yourself to get many prescriptions from many doctors, and that just isn;t worth the time and trouble, is it? Please get a second opinion..you CAN be helped. I know many friends who have succeeded in life simply because, at a bad time in their life, a doctor cared enough to give them some medical help for awhile.
Immigration is not the answer. Whereever you go, there you are, so problems don't go away with a change in environment. Saying that, I lived in Holland, where I seldom saw the sun, and now live in California. The difference in living in the sunshine is wonderful, and everyday is a joy, mainly because as of today, when it is raining in Amsterdam, I am sitting in the sunshine here on my patio, with no coat, etc. BUT, you must first get a doctor who cares and will monitor your medication, and one who will try all that is out there until one fits your problem, and after feeling good and able to see beyond today, only then, think about moving. But to a sunny place...weather DOES affect our life.

Answer 3

Start slow-baby steps. Try keeping a journal & reading over your entries every so often. Excercise, even if it's just walking outside. Try to eat a healthy diet. Avoid drugs & alcohol. You'd be surprised how your physical well-being can affect the psychological (& vice versa). Try yoga & meditation. Get some CD's of the ocean or whatever you find calming. Take it easy on yourself.

Answer 4

geez pal i read this stuff you wrote and all you ever talk about is you why dont you try to get over you for a while and think about all the starving kids in the world. back in my day no one would talk to a guy who cried all the time like you do . why dont you try to do something nice for someone cause no one wants to be around a guy who can only cry for himself all day long

Answer 5

It sounds like you would benefit from a psychologist or therapist. Or maybe a support group for your disorder.

Answer 6

one step/and or day at a time
you are making the right move towards your future by seeing a psychiatrist/and psychologist
Good Luck

Answer 7

it sounds like all you need is a good friend to help you out we all have fealings like you have but having a good friend to talk to helps