A boy at my high school?

Question

there is this boy at my highschool that really likes me alot. I'm a guy also. I'm in the closet hiding it from society in school. Lately, I been finding myself flirting with him, and him too. So a rumor came up saying that we were both gay and going out. I was hurt so badly when he started going out with this girl in my face and act like he didnt even know me, knowing that we have a secret relationship with one another. He know how I feel about this but just luaghs at it. Even though God meant for woman to be with man, but I just have feelings for guys. I'm a christian, and know Jesus Christ.Could someone please help me out, give me advice anything you can. Anything, and please be kind to me please dont hurt me anymore than what I already have

Answer 1

Oh, baby, I've been there, and I know how much it hurts. My first boyfriend was in the closet, and we had a secret relationship at school, and even though he didn't go out with anyone else, in public he could be very cruel to me to stop anyone thinking we were a couple.
At least in my case we did work it out, because he had real feelings for me, and eventually came out, but it doesn't always happen.
If this boy isn't ready to come out, nothing you can do will change his mind. He's acting badly because he's scared, but if he doesn't really care about you, I think you might have to just let him go. (In my case, I dumped him and started seeing someone else who was out, and he finally got his **** together and admitted he wanted me back, but I wouldn't rely on that happening. It might be worth a try, but if you're not out either it's more difficult.)
You have to try and forget him and move on, look for someone who will treat you better. If he is meant to be with you, he will realise it eventually, but if not, then you're better off without him.
Sorry I can't be more help.

Answer 2

honey your gay like it or not. you will never know really whether you are going to hell or not. you can try and be perfect and believe that you doing everything right except for being gay. it will drive you crazy. God made us the way we are. If he wants you to be different...really wants you to change and you know Jesus Christ, you will and it won't hurt. Someone told me once that if it was wrong for me to be gay then God would take the feelings that I had for other females away and I wouldn't go through the pain like I would a break up. Live your life, listen to your heart. If your heart tells you its wrong don't do it. Everybody is not going to feel the same way as you. You will have to decide what is best for you, not your church, not your friends, or your family. If you have the faith you say you do, ask God he will answer... He answered me. Oh, if the boy did that to you, tried to pretend there was nothing there...he's no good for you...for two reasons one hes not comfortable with his sexuality and that won't help you and two he lied. Try somebody else.

Answer 3

Well, being in the closet can be tough, especially if ur in the "popular" group, eg, my first bf, who treated my like cr*p in public so people wud get over the rumours about us. I simply remembered, why should I care about a guy who thinks his reputation (a false one at that) was more important than us? But ur bf seems more understanding. And so do you. I'd meet him face to face in private. Like meet him at his house or something, ask him why he's so insecure about it (altho we probably know the answer already). If he really cared about you, he would leave this poor girl and be with you, even if it is in private. Which is just as difficult. Tell him how it makes YOU feel, put yourself in front for a while, he can't have his way all the time, even if he is afraid.

Good Luck, and well, if your Jesus truly DOES love you, he would understand.

Answer 4

First of all, God meant for you to fall in love. There is NOTHING wrong with you being attracted to men, and you need to stop letting your christian beliefs get in the way of that. If you know JC, than follow your heart and do what feels right to you.

As far as the boy, there r other men honey. He is clearly not ready and is being very immature. If he wants to fool himself and be with a girl, let him be miserable. You dont need to worry about him. He is just conforming so that he doesnt get teased, you keep being strong, be proud of being gay, dont hide it anymore. Alot of people might pick on you, but in the long run, you will get alot more respect. Good luck.

Answer 5

well maybe he is hiding in the closet and when the rumors came out he dated a girl, if your so hurt by it then just date a girl and get back at him. Than again just accept who you are and leave him alone theres more guys out there or more girls out there just explore dont focus on one to long and dont get hurt anymore theres no reason to keep on hurting like this. Good Luck sweety

Answer 6

It sounds like he is insecure with his attraction towards you and is trying to cover up the rumor by dating a girl. I think that is mean of him as he is using the girl for his own means - to not look gay. Don't try to get back at him, he is clearly not worth the effort. His actions have shown that he is insecure (there is nothing wrong with insecurity, but there are right and wrong ways to deal with it), selfish, and weak. In other words, not the boy for you.

As for your religious faith: don't let that stop you. You love who you love, and isn't that what any religion wants? For people to care for, respect, and love one another? I have many friends who are deeply religious (Christian, in fact) and are also gay. It is just a matter of finding where god fits with you, and where you fit with god.

Answer 7

looks and Acts talking from journey in severe college boys many times dated women who were quite,prevalent, and dressed really marvelous. All that took replaced into basically being a cheerleader or playing some type of sport in college

Answer 8

Hey bro, your story really touches me deeply.

Ok let me start by telling you that im a christian too :)

ok to get back to topic, yeah i just wanna share a part of my testimony with you. I used to be gay, liked and was attracted to guys and not girls at all, and yeah from about age 12 to 19 i was really addicted to gay porn and masturbation and yeah i lusted over so many guys.

i always struggled with the same issue ur talking about, how you say "Even though God meant for woman to be with man, but I just have feelings for guys"

that was soooooooo me. like i know the bible says homosexuality is bad, but how can it be bad if it feels so right. so i had a boyfriend and yeah the whole thing, then i came out and told my bro, who told my parents behind my back. that was teh best thing to happen to me. my parents sat me down and told me i couldnt be gay and go to heaven, and that talk didnt help haha. i mean how could i stop liking guys ya know?

well they gave me these cd's of james dobson, a famous christian guy on the radio talking about homosexuality and how there is always a root cause. so after praying i realized that it was because i used to be teased growing up and i never had any tight guy friends. So i prayed with my pastor and and we rebuked the lies satan had planted in my heart, then later i surrendered my same sex attraction to Jesus, and BAM i was like instantly healed and delivered!

no more liking guys! and slowly God has been given me an attraction towards women.. this happend about a year ago (im 21 now).

so yeah remember nothing is too hard for Jesus, and through him u can be delivered from same sex attraction... tons of people will say you cant be, but i am living proof that you CAN CHANGE with the help of JESUS CHRIST :)

God bless you buddy, and feel free to email me to talk more :)

Answer 9

wow d that is deep

dont worry baby love is out there waiting for u and i hope u find the one for u trust me there is one for u just wait

sorry for what happened to u i know how u feel i've been hurt like that too

Answer 10

Ignore that guy. he sounds heartless and ignore everyone else who can't accept you for who you are. everyone goes through hard times. it's life. Good things will come to you eventually.