went back home this wkend well where i used to live as it was my friends babys naming ceramony which is a cristening but not in a church. me and my friend have been friends since we were four. she is my little girls godparent, as we always said we would be for each others kids. however the last 12 months has been abit up and down for us, and we drifted a bit apart. i have just made alot of new changes in my life. anyway she didnt pick me to stand as godparent which is fair enough even though it hurt. went to the do after, from 1 drinks flowed including lots of champagne. well i got bladdered and got upset, i was very drunk and my friend is really pissed off with me. i didnt mean too i just went all at once. ive gone through an awful lot of hurt and pain the last few months and so's my little girl and i dont think my friend understands this cos she has the perfect little life. what do i do apart from dont drink as much ?.x
2006-11-12 09:49:05 · 16 answers · asked by angelalways 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sorry i would just like to add i have apologised sincerly to her.x
2006-11-12 09:53:14 · update #1
Not knowing the history of the last year only the naming ceremony. I would suggest, that if the relationship wasn't that bad, then you should ring tomorrow or as soon as you can to talk to her. Apologise, obviously, for upsetting her but point out that whatever has happened between you has deeply affected you and whilst you were drunk you said a lot of things that you had not meant to but they were the truth (if they were) and that you feel really hurt. Tell her that you really want to work the problems out and think of a few ways to do this.
Unfortunately though, I fear that, like me, this friendship may never be back where you had it. Also, accept that whatever happened may mean you lose this relationship. I'm sorry I know that's hard. But part friends at least. I had a Best friend once that I lied to. It completely destroyed the relationship. Although we parted friends we only send Christmas cards now.
Having said that, this may be God's/Nature's way of saying, Move on their are more important and better things for you. I now have a fantastic husband who is also my best friend and a female friend who might as well be my big sister we are so close.
Good Luck. I hope you can patch things up.
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2006-11-12 09:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Clare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had the perfect little life, I would try and pick a god parent who had the perfect little live too. you sound like you resent her for being happy. we all go through losses in life, but I feel you have had to deal with a loss she has never been through and you were expecting her to be there for you. If she has never been through what you have, she wont have all the answers your looking for.
Try and find someone who has been through what you have, and come out the other side and happy now. these people will have the answers your looking for.
Don't worry your friend will forgive you. It will just take some time and while your waiting go and find the knowledge your looking for. Best wishes for the future and don't be too hard on your self, it will get better.
2006-11-12 18:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that anyone has 'the perfect little life', we all have one thing or another in our life that is not perfect so don't be feeling let down.
I think the worse thing anyone can say when you have done something that went wrong is' I wouldn't have done tha't or 'you shouldn't have done that'.
Just call your friend tomorrow and tell her you are so sorry to have let both her and yourself down. Tell her the whole homecoming thing after the problems you have had just got to you and you had a little too much to drink because you were nervous. Tell her you are embarrassed about the whole thing as you never act like that. Then do as you say.
You will be alright just keep it together.X
2006-11-12 18:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Learner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, and explain to her why you were hurt and upset with her, then explain about all the stuff that you have gone through in the past year. She may be a bit upset with you for not openeing up to her in the first pace. Some friends will be there for life- it doesnt matter whether you havnt seen them for 6 days or six months. I always find that honesty and openness works best for friendships. Hope it all works out for you xxx
2006-11-12 17:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you need to explain to your friends all the hurt you've been going through and that you didnt mean to drink so much.
2006-11-12 18:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only hope she has the heart to forgive you as it is something that should have been addressed in private. I had a similar outburst a few years ago which I`m ashamed of even now
2006-11-12 17:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize!
2006-11-12 17:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her, however, the two of you may have grown to far apart and have nothing in common any more. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-12 17:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give your friend a couple weeks to cool off then talk to her again and try explain what happened, if nothing else say srry again then try to move on
good luck and smile big even when it hurts
2006-11-12 17:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Shorty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you wern't drunk the truth about how you felt would have eventually come out, about how you felt whether hurt or upset!
2006-11-12 21:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋