Need To know if anyone is like me? **Scared**?

Question

I am recently married and my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant since before we were married and no luck, couple missed periods by a week or two but no more than that...
My last period was Sept 10th, I have taken 4 at home tests and all negative, went to the doc and took another test there, still negative, have another kit from the doc to take on monday, we want a child very badly... I am tired, and taking precautions just in case I am, boobs are slightly bigger but not sore, gained 6lbs in 3 weeks but other than that not much.... I am worried that I may have endometriosis or cystic fibroids or something.... Should I be scared??? Please share words of wisdom and advice... my doctor
doesn't want to worry me quite yet as many people seem to think I am preggy which would be GREAT! :-) I was pulled aside at a family function and people said I was glowing and if I wasn't telling them something... I don't know, I just want to know if I should worry or not... Thanks to everyone

Answer 1

I was in the same situation a year ago and I'll tell you what happened to me. We were trying and trying for a baby...I stopped having my period for like 3 months and I was so excited but my tests were all neg. So I went to my doc and he said that when you want to be pregnant that badly your body can trick itself into missing your period. They said to stop stressing about it and it would happen easier and quicker.


I was like ooooooo sure! Well finally after months of trying and failing we finally decided to wait a little bit...well even with no period for 4 months I GOT PREGNANT! And our baby girl is now almost a month old! I hope this helps you! Good luck sweetie!

Oh and my doc also said not to have sex everyday because then your husbands sperm is less concentrated. Have sex every other day or every 2 days.

Answer 2

If you have endometriosis or cystic fibroid’s or something, please go find out. Your doctor should be taking better care of YOU. These are serious medical conditions that you should be completely aware of prior to pregnancy! I would suggest a new doctor is in order.

My nephew's wife just had their first baby and she has endometriosis. They didn’t want children when they first got married. They are in their 30’s now. My daughters best friend has two children and has endometriosis. It does not make it impossible, difficult yes. My Mother was 42 when my brother was born and 45 when I was born. I don’t know how old you are but I’m sure you have time.

Your good health should be the first priority, then pregnancy. You want a good pregnancy. Please take things in the right order, health and safety first then pregnancy. Don’t worry about family and friends or even your husbands desire to have a baby. Your body is going to do all the work. It must be in good condition and capable of handling the stress of the pregnancy. Make sure you know what condition your body is in!

If you have the medical insurance and can get counseling it probably wouldn’t hurt to speak to someone about your emotional concerns. You sound very stressed. Understandably. I can say to you that you don’t need to feel the way you do but, I’m sure that would not deter your feelings at this point. So find some one that is not associated with you and family directly that you can vent to. It will help. Trust me.

You have no reason to carry the burden of this effort on your shoulders alone. There is no reason for you to even think that it is your body that is the real reason you can not get pregnant. You have no conclusive medical tests that have given you reason to believe this. Both of you should go in for testing. Your husband could very well have a low sperm count.

If you are pregnant, I wish you the best. I am happy for you and your husband! Relax. Enjoy the pregnancy. Don't over eat. Be good to yourself and the baby. Wish you and your new arrival best of health.

Answer 3

I have experienced the same kind of things- all the signs are there, but yet, no baby. I think its partly psycological. Fertility problems are so common nowadays hun, I have some, alot of other couples suffer this, yes it is frightening, but you need to relax and give it time. That is not to say that you have some, just that even if you do, there is lots that they can do in this day and age to help couples concieve. I totally understand how upsetting and frustrating this can be- im in the same boat. Most doctors say you need to be trying for at least a year before they will do any kind of tests. Take into account all the stress that we have nowadays and the environmental factors and you will see why we have a hard time getting what we want the most. Please just relax and try not to worry too much, alot of people say that thats when its most likely to happen. Good luck, I hope you catch soon xxxxxx

Answer 4

Relax, enjoy sex and have it often. Don't worry about infertility until it has been 12 months, it takes on an average of 6 months, and most people become pregnant.

You could try "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" http://www.ovusoft.com if you want to do something concrete, but really having sex every other day or more often will do it.

If you have any friends with babies smelling the top of their heads may make you get pregnant. Or put a pair of baby booties under your matress at the foot of your bed. Ok probably those things don't work, however many women believe that they do, including me.

Hopefully you are pregnant, but if not I am sure you will be soon.

Answer 5

hey huney stressing won't help if ur over stress ur body will make the sytoms up it happed to me after i lost my baby(tho thats not the case 4 u) but just saying that u want a baby badly ur body may start thinking or making it's self belieave it's pregnant and it's not the greatest thing to go throw i was so unhappy when i did my second test after i lost my baby thinking great im preg again but my doc told me to take it easy and just try to relax nothing will happen if u stree urself out and ur body starts working over time just ithink u and ur husband need to told long and hard with ur doc and maybe take a brake away sum where and see if being sumwhere new and fun might help the situwation in any way but hope it all go's well and u get that baby u deseaver it every woman dose gud luck and just relax xxxxx

Answer 6

There are so many things that have to go perfectly right before a successful pregnancy, so don't be put off by it taking some time. The tests also are nto 100% accurate by any means, so don't take the negative results as a 100% sign you're not pregnant.

If you're tired, as you say you are, you may be delaying things cos of the stress your body's under. Just try and relax, and if you're really concerned, you should talk to your doctor, if only for peace of mind.

Answer 7

Honey, how long have you been trying? It can take anything up to a year and beyond.
If you feel that you have a problem like endometriosis ask your doctor, but unless your periods are extremely painful it isn't likely to be anything like this.

To ease your concerns, book an appointment with a fertility clinic to get your and and your husbands fertility levels checked.

Other than this, I have no advice.
I want to wish you all the best for the future though! I hope that you get your longed-for child soon :)

Answer 8

Try not to worry about it being something preventing you, or wrong with you, that won't help. And even if there were something going on, it doesn't mean that you can't or won't have a baby, I know all about that feeling. I hope that you get good news, I was so excited when I found out that I was expecting with my daughter, and that the endometriosis hadn't won. I wish you two (three?) the best for your family.

Answer 9

oh honey I hope you are. Why didn't your dr do a blood test, that would have told you 100% either way if you were pregnant or not. I know it's hard, but try to relax a little. Stress can really affect stuff like this. Also, my sister in law has endo and she still got pregnant and has a healthy little boy. I hope you don't have anything like that wrong, but even if you do it's still possible to get pregnant.
I know it's scarey, just keep trying. It took my husband and I well over a year to get pregnant successfully. I hope it happens soon for you.

Answer 10

dont be scared, its not uncommon to take years for some couples to get pregnant, doesnt always mean they cant, i started testing the day my period was due and got negative results up untill i was 10 weeks along, even the hospital gave me a negative twice, sometimes the hCg hormone level is higher in some women, therefore they get a positive sooner, dont loose hope, there is still plenty of time.