My friend is just confused right now. He's about my age and here's how he feels: Likes looking at guys ***** and likes to go out with girls, not guys. Wants to, while he jerks off, think about a guys dick and a girls' privates, but doesn't want to do anything intimate with guys, only girls. He looks at gay porn (masturbation only) and he also looks at naked girls. My friend never wants to go out with guys.He believes that him dating and being intimate with guys is wrong. He wants to get married to a girl and love her a lot. My friend feels like he likes looking at other guys' *****, gets a ***** when he does, but he wants to be 'just friends w/ no benefits' and he also wants to like girls physically and emotionally. Is my friend gay, bi, straight?
2006-11-12 09:22:14 · 12 answers · asked by clipperpistonfan27 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Correction he can't stop thinking about a guys dick but wants to think about naked girls
2006-11-12 12:46:03 · update #1
He cannot stop thinking about it when he jacks off but like I said he wants to think about naked girls.
2006-11-12 12:47:52 · update #2
well i believe that everyone has a gay side. how much depends on how much they are willing to admit.
most straight guys DO find other guys attractive (even if they dont intend to do any thing sexual) they are too darn chicken to admit it in fear of getting labeled 'Gay' by their other 'straight' friends.
your friend is no exception, he may find men attractive when they are nude (personal preferences) and still doesnt want to have sex with them.
ask him to come with terms to himself....
i know some straight people who even had a fling with other guys just to decide if that what they want.
2006-11-12 12:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lestat R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is probably gay.
He obviously likes males because he enjoys gay porn and the male anatomy. This means that he is not straight.
Then you said that he claims he thinks about girls as well and that he goes on dates with girls. This is most likely just not wanting to be gay. He hasn't accepted the fact that is ok to be gay. Just be happy with your life.
Our society has forced your friend into thinking that homosexuality is wrong and a sin, but I don't believe that even for a moment.
Your friend is most likely gay but just doesn't have the heart to admit it yet. I hope that he gets the courage to be proud of who he is sooner rather than later or not at all.
Living a lie or going through life with a deep dark secret is excruciating, believe me.
2006-11-12 17:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In his own World he's Pervert, but Real World he's a Straight Man, Nothing Wrong with It, But You know that If he dated a Pre Op or Non Op M2F Tran sexual He would get a Chick with a Dick.
If he wants to marry woman and look at *****, tell him to go after a She male that's a Solution to that Problem.
2006-11-12 17:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by tfoley5000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell us his age or your age, but here it goes: He sounds bisexual to me. Just because he seems to have a preference for the ladies does not mean he is straight. He's just a bisexual fellow who expresses his bisexual nature by looking at male porn, taking quick glances at guys penises, and fantasizing about men when he masterbates -- typical male bisexual behavior, friend.
Lots of bisexual males are fixated on guys' penises (and scrotums) and very little else. And bisexual guys often do not want to be sexual with their close male friends -- they usually separate friendship and sex. In fact, they highly value their platonic male friends.
You seem to know your friend very well -- you have given us very specific aspects of his sexuality. I assure you, you are describing bisexual tendencies in a male. He is not gay but he is also not straight.
2006-11-13 01:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to get his head straight and realize that there is nothing wrong with being gay or bi. Maybe then he can be honest with himself and understand his own sexuality.
2006-11-12 17:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say your age nor his not that it matters but I am assuming you are both young........under 21.
I too was like your friend as far as the wanting to be straight and wanting to be married and have kids and not wanting to be gay and wanting to want women..............but no matter how much I wanted I was always attracted towards men PERIOD!
It did not matter how much I denied it nor how many years I prayed and not even that I found a women I loved and married and even was able to make two children!
I never longed for my wife past in my head and heart but in my loins and truest desires only known by me was my desire for a man............and it never went away. It weakend a bit due to my "being straight" and having sex with my wife which was a false high for me.
In time that to broke down and all I had was me and my true self......the gay man I am and was no longer able to lie or fake it anylonger.
I too would fantizie about another man with a woman in order to be with my wife just like what you say your friend is doing now. And all along a nude man or pictures or porn (gay or anything with a man in it) turned me on.
All of my covering up who I was only dug me deeper and made me hate myself even more for lying in every part and to every one in my life.
My divorce was too painful (even though she knew about me before marriage) you see my truning straight was a lie and my children who I raised myself always knew so they said and it made no difference to them they still and always did love me cause I was there father (and mother). My family learned to accept me and became more loving and kind and accepting people over time. To this day they have totally changed their tune about gays ..........thanks to my courage and love to be myself.
So tell your friend not to lie to get help to feel better about himself where or who ever he is and he too can help himself and others in this life!
Good Luck
2006-11-12 18:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it "My friend is just confused right now" once he figures it out, he know and if you're still interested in the answer so will you.
2006-11-12 17:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by Old guy 124 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you said, he's just confused right now.
He seems to me to be bisexual but insecure about his feelings for guys.
2006-11-12 19:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gay
2006-11-13 02:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk your friend ask him if you really are his friend you will be supportive and understanding it doesn't change who he is as a person. it shouldn't matter just ask him to be honest, and if he doesn't want anyone to know you should respect that as well.
2006-11-12 17:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋