She said she doesn't believe in abortion and wants to keep the baby but she's only 13 yrs old. I dont think she could handle the responsibility of a baby. HELP ME!!
2006-11-12 09:21:17 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
O.K This is what you need to do.You have to confront your sister and tell her if she is grown up enough to keep a baby, then she should be grown up enough to tell your parents. Give her the ultimatum that you will give her 24 hours to go to your mom or dad and let them know what's up because they have every right to know. She may not believe in abortions but it seems to me she can't take care of herself if she is 13 years old and pregnant.How would she take care of the baby?You have to stand your ground give her the day then if she doesn't go to your parents then you definitely should.Sooner or later they will figure it out (belly grows).Better it be sooner they have time to talk to her about options and be prepared if they allow her to keep the baby.If you wait too long then she can't have a abortion and her life will be nothing but a struggle for the rest of her life and the child will have it hard too.Don't worry that you betrayed her your doing what is right and letting your parents know is right and you have given her the opportunity to tell them herself plus she had 2 and a 1/2 months to say something.Give her 24 hours then tell!!! Good Luck :)
2006-11-12 09:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to tell your parents. Unless you think they may go crazy and hurt her - but I am hoping they aren't those kinds of parents. A 13 year old is not equipped to handle this situation - you need to tell an adult. If you can't tell your parents then go to a close relative or a teen pregnancy councillor or even a doctor - they would be able to refer you to someone that can help. Your sister may be angry with you at first, but once someone starts to help her and relieves some of the stress and pressure I'm sure she'll get over it, or even thank you for it. Just make sure you pick the right person to tell - someone loving and not too judgemental and not an overly religious person because they may not consider what is best for your sister, they will just tell her not to get an abortion because that's what they believe. Good luck, I hope it all works out well for you guys : )
2006-11-12 12:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your sis, and tell her that she needs to tell your mom (or another responsible adult) that she is pregnant because not getting medical care could be very harmful to your sister or the baby. Offer to talk to your mom with her if she wants, but tell her that if she does not talk to your mom, you will have to tell because you are worried about her safety. Give her some time to think, and set a deadline for a few hours later.
2006-11-12 09:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand by her and her decisions offer to be there to tell your parents the father and also to go to doctors appointments with and such. She doesnt have to abort the child she could put it up for adoption or ask your parents to help raise the child (along with you) until such a time that she can take on full responsibilty herself. This is not your responsibility so just be there for her and the baby
2006-11-12 09:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will give her to the count of three to tell your parents or you are going to. She needs help dealing with the pregnancy and all that is coming up, besides she is in the high risk category. As for the baby's father, let your parents deal with the boys parents (or if he is over 18 putting him in jail). Don't delay, do this now.
2006-11-12 09:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that you love her and that your parents need to know now before something happens. Tell her that you want to be there for her and ask her if she want you to tell your parents or would she like to have you there when she tells them. Go from there she does not need to hear that it was a dumb mistake she knows that. She needs support as no matter what happens in the end this will probably be the worst thing that will happen in her young life and it is not going to be easy. This will effect her her whole life
2006-11-12 09:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi "HELP ME",
First of all, you have help!! All around you!! And I agree with you, she can not handle this responsibility alone. But she can with support and love from those around you both.
If your mom is a person you feel safe with in sharing this news then talk to your sis about sharing this with your mom. Go to your mom together. Strength in numbers.
If your mom is someone you don't feel safe with telling her about this pregnancy, for whatever reasons, then think of someone you do feel safe with (teacher, minister, neighbor, relative, etc).
There is at least one person you can share this with and know you will be heard safely. Think of someone (your mom?) that has the experience of being a parent, giving birth, being involved with a birth, and bring them into this very private matter today!.
It is very important for your sister's and baby's health and safety that your mom (or some other adult) be told now.!!!
Remember, your sister is 13 and is scared, nervous, not sure what to do, who to tell and is very confused (and perhaps you too). She needs some adult guidance, support, experience, and love in bringing this child into this crazy world (perhaps you too!).
Lastly, remember the power of prayer. Prayers are heard!
God Bless you and know that you are not alone. We are praying for your strength to see you through for your sister and unborn child.
ATL
2006-11-12 09:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mayor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is right for you to be concerned about her but it isn't right for you to make up her mind. If she doesn't want an abortion then no one should make her have one. (that can really mess up her emotionally and mentally--I h ave seen it)
She needs support from you and she needs to talk to an adult. (even if it isn't her mother)
She should be told of all the options--adoption is an option too--and it can be an open adoption.
No one should pressure her because then any decision she makes will not seem like her own and she could end up hating those her pushed her. as well as herself for allowing herself to be pushed.
Good luck, stay strong, she needs someone who isn't preaching and yelling (she will get enough of that)
2006-11-12 10:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might need to help her tell your mom and your mom can help to tell the father, she will need medical attention right away for her health and the health of the baby. you would be doing this for her and her baby that she wants to keep. support her in this because she made a mistake and she wants to be responsible for her actions but she may not know how. this is going to be tough for her and all the family but what's done is done. just help her out as much as you can, she will be thankful!!
2006-11-12 09:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by young_mommy_of_two 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell the mother and the father right away or the girl could be hurt and the baby. i know this is not a good advice but just tell them about it!!
2006-11-12 11:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by lola here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋