I know the statistic that "people who live together before marriage, are double as likely to get divorced once they're married". WHY is that though??
2006-11-12 09:05:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because once they got married things changed. They thought that that piece of paper they got when they got married made them the boss.
One in the marriage changed to the boss and the other stayed the same as they had agreed before they got married.
There are certain things that we do different once we are married. There are certain expections we are suppose to follow.
For instantance once we start having kids we can't go and hang out with friends all night and expect the loved one at home not to get angry. You chose to have them together that means equal responsibility when it comes to the kids. And if you are gonna go out and do this then you had better expect the loved one at home is gonna go do the same on a different night. It is only fair!!!
Marriage is 50/50. And some people let that license go to there head and expect there partner to become different. They want them to become someone that they aren't.
If you are gonna get married then you had best be able to handle what your partner is and was before the marriage. You knew who they were long before you married them. So how can you expect them to change when you accepted them before you were married. If you didn't like the way they were before marriage then you should have never married them.
A lot of people assume that once you are married you can change who a person is. You think that you can change them and mold them into what you want. This may work for a while but the person they once was will come back. And this is where the divorce comes from.
My advice to all those out there living together right now and looking to get married is this. If you don't like your partners habits now then you won't later. You can't change who they are forever. They will come back. And when they do it will end up being ugly.
If you accept there habits now they will expect you to accept them later. Because they never knew any different. Voice your views now before you get married and tell them what you expect out of a marriage with them. And let them tell you what they expect from you.If they can't accept your terms or you can't accept their's then end it now before you go and have kids and aquire a lot together so you don't end up in divorce court and drag your kids thru the mill and back.
None of us are perfect we all have our faults. And if your partner can understand that and you can understand that. And you accept those faults while living together and never voice your views on them then you had better be able to follow through with the same behavior once you are married.
That is why I believe those who live together and then get married end up with a higher divorce rate.
2006-11-12 09:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of commitment in the relationship. Get married or engaged (stats about equal) BEFORE you live together. This has only been proven about a billion times in the last few years. Why is this so? Because individuals who are serious about a real life partner, don't want to play house again for a few more years. A lot of people have tried out a couple of "live ins" prior to marriage now.
2006-11-12 09:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One marriage we lived together for 2years, married 2. My 2nd I married him ASAP and were together for 6 1/2 years and still are good friends. Now I am living with a guy which seems like I will be with him 4ever! Screw those statistics!!
2006-11-12 09:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly because they did not have the right commitment to each other to begin with. If they truly loved each other they would know that living together was not enough. When you meet your true soul mate and know that you are meant to be together for life you just marry. You don't have to test things by living together first.
2006-11-12 09:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very good question. My husband and I lived together before we got married. I went to my psychiatrist and he told me most likely we weren't going to make it because of that. The only reason I can think of is if you live together, you might get married because it is comfortable. If youget married for the wrong reason, of course it isn't going to last. Just my opinion, though.
2006-11-12 09:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because they stopped doing the things they did to and for each other once they were married.
2006-11-12 09:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rita T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is true ,you live together was compatible and you married. To me that means you knew each pretty good and still wanted to be together legally
2006-11-12 09:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋