Does anyone feel empty on the inside and feel it has to do with their significant other?

Question

I was wondering if other people felt this way, too. You've put 110% of yourself into a relationship for over a decade. You've bent over backwards and did everything to keep things going and the other person did very little, if anything at all, to help maintain anything, relationship included. This describes me. I feel empty, or even dead, on the inside. I don't wish ill will on them, and I still care for them as an individual but I can't explain this emptiness inside myself. Anyone else feel like this before? If so, what did you do?

Answer 1

Jennifer, you are an awesome woman, and you deserve far better than what your hubby is offering. I know this sounds trite, but life goes by FAST, you have to do whatever is necessary to make yourself happy--regardless of what that entails. If you don't, you will wake up one day at 60 years old, full of regret and sorrow over what could have been.

Choosing a new path is scary, I know...but you must do this, for your sanity and your future happiness.

Answer 2

Do you mean that even though you are a married woman you couldn't feel more alone? Do you feel like nothing you feel or say matters? Do you feel like everything you do goes unnoticed and unappreciated? Do you sometimes feel he only stays for the children? Does he come home from work, switch on the television and then act like you are bothering him if you say something? When you do say something does he complain that you go on and on? Does he sleep on the couch at night? Does he work too much. Sometimes even on days off? Does it appear that his work matters more than family? Does he take phone calls all day long no matter what you are doing? Will he drop everything and go to work if needed? Are his kisses just quick pecks anymore? Do you have to initiate the sex and still sometimes don't get it? Do you feel depressed? Do you sometimes miss being single? Do you think back to the beginning of the relationship hoping to feel those butterflies from all those years ago? Do you feel unloved and hopeless? Do you wonder if you should just give up? If you do then we feel exactly the same way. I have never been so lonely. I had more attention when I was single. Take care and feel better.

Answer 3

I was married for 10 years and felt that way during the last year of my marriage. I was allowing him to make me crazy and I became very, very depressed. I ended up in a mental hospital and eventually decided that I could not allow him to have control over my emotions anymore, so I divorced him.

Answer 4

Well this isn't like YOUR decade relationship.
Mine lasted a month.
I put in so much effort and he wasn't.
I waited, but not too long to where I was wasting my time.
So I broke up with him.
He regretted the way he acted and wished he changed.
But it's too late now.
I'm with someone who treats me better now.


If you really love that person, talk to them and let them know how you feel. If they aren't willing to change, then I think you'd be wasting your time with them.

Answer 5

I have felt that when I was married to the wrong person for me. He was a cheater and verbally abused me. I divorced him and found that life was much better. Now I am with the perfect man for me and I never have those feelings.

Answer 6

HI jen? here i'm trying to find where mine other part went,plaese people are telling me to go futher with minr lofe ,But thy just dont know what i'm feeling inside,one thing i know and is the true that only you feel it ,But dont you worry there is a god ,Listen Jen what go's up most come down,belief that and you will see.I'm in Amsterdam holland,

Answer 7

It is all within you...happiness, sadness, ecstasy, despondency, elation...if you have the ability to train your mind, you control all these and not depend on any outside stimulant.....Do not blame others ....ever...