I just told my husband that we should divorce. He knows how hurt I have been for years by both families and him. He also knows that I have gone from being funny and sweet to angry and bitter. Divorce scares me as I won't have family to rely on. Friends are few but distance-wise very far away..
Husband has agreed to give me time till I get back on my feet with getting certified in some classes and getting a better job. But emotioanally speaking.. how hard is it for a woman?
Men's responses are welcome,too.
2006-11-12 08:17:52 · 14 answers · asked by Centered 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he is being fair..It is not easy but Good Luck..You can do it!!!
2006-11-13 23:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Juliette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard you need to have a plan. Check into income based housing. Do you have transportation? check how to get buses or rides. Try to get near stores and buisness not isolated out . it feels safer. Get involved in some groups for divorce women and they will help you emotionally too. I dont know where you live but i will support you all i can from here im or email me.
2006-11-12 08:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. It was very hard, but very freeing at the same time knowing I could depend on myself for anything I needed. I think it really was a growing experience for me. I made NEW friends and became less bitter. I stayed busy and healthy, and just did things for ME, which is a major change for most women. Godloveya.
2006-11-12 08:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not be easy at first, but you will get used to living on your own in time. Try to fill your time with activities that you enjoy. Set small goals each day for yourself and try to treat yourself weekly to something that you value - dinner or movie out, etc.
Try to join some Divorce Recovery or support groups also. You can make friends and also learn from other's experiences.
2006-11-12 09:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It;s hard to have to do all the things that your husband helped you with, but sometimes it is necessary. If you have children it is harder. But you know if you have been in a abusive relationship it really helps. You cam go home at night and do just what you want to do, you hear people arguing and you can go home get in your bed and curl your toes up thinking man I am glad I don't to put up with all that , I can just go to sleep. You get use to being alone and at times you feel so grateful not to have to cook or whatever if you don't want to do, you feel free again.
2006-11-12 08:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely how you are feeling. I am going through the beginings of a divorce myself. The answer I gave myself was I would rather be alone then in a marriage and being alone.
2006-11-12 08:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard at first, mostly because of the change and all the sad emotions you'll be experiencing. But once you get on your feet you'll be surprised by how rejuvenated you fell with all your new freedom. It's a wonderful feeling when you don't have to depend on anyone.
2006-11-12 08:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by tashatactics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not going to be easy. This transition is going to be all about you and how bad you want it. It will take work on your part to suceed, can you do it? I think that any woman can, if she sets her mind to it. Emotionally, you are goin g to have days where you feel your heart has been ripped out and torn to shreds. Then there will be days where you feel exhilarated and ready to take on the world. Eventually eveything will even out and you will come out on top! Take care and good luck girl, keep your chin up.
2006-11-12 08:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs*HEBA*HOOD©â?¢ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being divorce myself, it's very easy. When it comes right down to it, I don't rely on anyone but myself. I work, support myself, budget my money and do as I please. No more hassles, confusion and turmoil. I never knew life could be so good! How people chose to rebuild their lives is entirely up to them.
2006-11-12 08:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Free Spirit,
You can make it. Just start each day knowing that you are someone special and can do this. Be positive and strong. Things will turn around
2006-11-12 08:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how you feel about it, but i think that you should understand that this is big! i wathced divorce rip my mother apart from the seams so be careful and make sure that divorce is absoluly the only option left
2006-11-12 08:22:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋