We were together over ten years ago and there has been nobody since. Why can't I move on? Do I need therapy?
2006-11-12 08:08:00 · 24 answers · asked by john_l_k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You probably had intense feelings for this person, I think it is common. Don't worry about it too much.
2006-11-12 08:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by serendipity_siren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are your subconcious thoughts and this merely reflects how you also think of your ex. You don't need therapy but an understanding and happy-go-lark boyfriend. Stop brooding and moping over this 10 year relationship and start enjoying your life. Why has it taken you so long to find somebody? Maybe you were comparing them with your ex, which is the wrong thing to do as people are different, even twins. You really have missed much, so start being the happy 18 year old you used to be.
2006-11-12 17:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has been nobody in 10 years? Wow.. Why is that? Are you still not over her? Did this dream come out of the blue, or do you think of her often? If you think of her often and you cant over the breakup you need to stop and take a look at your life... Where is this going to take you? You need to accept the relationship is over... shes probably moved on with her life, and you should too. You need to be open to a new relationship and realize there might be somebody out there thats a better match for you than she was. But you need to stop obsessing! Accept she wasnt the one... and focus on what you want in a new relationship. And dont compare new love interests to your ex.. its not fair, and not going to help you. Why would you want somebody that is like somebody that wasnt right for you?
If you truly have an obsession problem you might need to see a therapist or somebody to help you work out your feelings. You cant start something new without putting closure to the past.
2006-11-12 16:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by spanish kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need therapy, It is natural that you may have dreams of your ex and haven't been with anyone since. You are probably have thoughts of the past and the good times. Some times marriages don't work out no matter what we do and you need to remember the good, if there is any. But normally if someone gets married, there is good in the beginning. The reason you have haven't been with anyone yet, is you ha vent found one that your interested in yet, so don't worry about it and enjoy your life.
2006-11-12 16:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this all the time myself, even though it's been a year, although I still have dreams about an ex from over 10 years ago. I am not sure why, If you believe in reincarnation/spiruality and that kind of thing, there may be a connection that the 2 of you had which goes beyond the realm of this planet. It is kind of weird though isnt it??
2006-11-12 16:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 years old and had a dream about my 8th grade "love". I am married and have been with many other guys since him. I don't think dreams mean anything. If you think you aren't moving on, though, try therapy. It can't hurt.
2006-11-12 17:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i still have dreams about an ex from five years ago. i am married now though. It scares me a bit though. I guess there is a connection to this person that will never be burned out of my memory
2006-11-12 16:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by nycchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you probably dream about this person because you have soul ties with this person.
Is there a reason there has been no one since her? If you are dwelling on her for 10 years, you probably should seek some professional help. She has probably moved on with her life and you need to too.
2006-11-12 16:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by divinephi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still occasionally miss my ex from 4 years ago. Doesn't mean I want to be with her, but I guess a certain memory remains forever there in your mind. I'm happily settled with someone new, and we're talking of marriage, but as I say memories stick around.
I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as its just dreams and not obsession.
2006-11-12 16:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by ashypoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that person was in your life a long time and that is something that you cant erase. Some time when you move on you may still have thease dreams. Have you ever dreamed about your elementary classmate. its just a dream. Maby when you run into that right someone then maby that may help your dream situation. good luck
2006-11-12 16:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by hardwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i still occasionally have dreams about my ex-boyfriend. we were together for 6 years, and it ended about 7 years ago. i just appreciate the dreams for what they are...the chance to 'see' an old friend. i don't think it means you have feelings for that person, but are just re-living a part of your life. Enjoy them!
2006-11-12 18:30:19 · answer #11 · answered by animal_mother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋