I know the mother, but not really the child. I wish to send a card of sympathy, but unsure of what words to say, exactly.
The child had been ill for sometime, but was not expected to pass away right now. I think the child was in their mid 30's.
Looking for something nice to say - I cant say I understand the pain they must be suffering, as I haven't been through anything like this at all (thank God.)
2006-11-12 08:06:12 · 14 answers · asked by firefightersbabe 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Try this, this is something I found one day, and found it very helpful
Don’t Cry
Don’t cry for me now I am gone, I did not die, my life goes on.
For all we shared throughout the years, send me your love without your tears.
I couldn’t stay, and so instead, I’ve walked a little way ahead.
This morning I awoke again, to face another day of pain,
And suddenly beheld a door, I’m certain wasn’t there before.
And, trying, found to my surprise, with ease and comfort I could rise.
And at the door to welcome me, stood countless friends and family.
Well-loved and lost so long ago, all gathered now to let me know,
Eternal are the ties that bind our hearts to those we leave behind.
Please don’t think I don’t still care, those we loved here are still loved there.
The darkest night will end with dawn, don’t cry for me, my life goes on.
Love & Peace
2006-11-12 10:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by ringo711 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My older friend had lost her son in Iraq( he was a soldier) I didnt know her son but love her v much. I found it very hard to find the right things to say but at the end of the day what are the right things to say?????
What I did was let her know that I am here for her at any time of the day or night, either to sound off or just to have a shoulder to cry on. I felt that trying to understand what she was going through was patronising to her as i have never been in a situation any where near what she found her self in.
Just let her know that u are there for her no matter what its for and that you are thinking of her and her family.
hope it helps xxx
2006-11-12 08:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by kate 0504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has to be the worst pain, my son's father's mother is still suffering from my son's father's death as am I and the rest of the family...but the pain she feels is different and obvious and if that happened to me I wouldnt even want anybody saying anything. I would exclude myself from everyone else so I wouldnt even have to hear anything but I understand you feeling the need to console but I would just be there for her...not so much talk....
2006-11-12 08:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going threw this too...my girlfriend's son just died a week ago and the only thing you can say is " Sorry for your Loss, and let her know I will always be here for her, no matter what...and take her some food, or send flowers...
2006-11-12 08:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nicest thing you can say is,'I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how much you're hurting right now. I just want you to know I'm here for you should you need me.' And do be there for her-she'll be going through a tough time struggling to accept the loss of her son.
2006-11-12 08:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either "thinking of you" or "so sorry for your loss" would do to write in the card. Theres no right thing to say to someone in this situation. Just try to be there for them if they need you.
2006-11-12 22:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Catwhiskers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest and say "I really don' know what to say". Tell them how sorry you are for their pain and offer support if it's needed. (This will probably never be taken up but is a kind gesture).
2006-11-12 09:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by helen p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've set me thinking..
I suppose, I'd say something along the lines of..
"I realise nothing I can say will help, but still I felt I had to tell you that I feel for you and want to help you in this terrible time of grief and loss. Yours sincerely,..."
2006-11-12 08:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kango Man 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
how about :-
I wish i could think of something to say that would express my sadness for your loss - please know that i am thinking of you at this sad time. (and if you/they have a faith you could add that they are in your prayers)
nothing that you say will be enough - this acknowledges that you recognise that words cannot heal the hurt they feel
you sound like a good friend xx
2006-11-12 08:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by mousie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really difficult! just let them know about how you feel personally, having not been through this situation before, you would like to express your feelings and hope that they understand, dont be too ott or too utt!!!
2006-11-12 08:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by carol g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋