A friend of mine (male) has had an affair with an old girlfriend and now his wife and kids have found out. The thing is my daughter talks to his son on MSN all the time and he keeps asking her for advice and information on the situtuation. I don't want her to be piggy in the middle but the son confides in her and wants her help. Does she say that she doesn't want to be involved, or what? Help!
2006-11-12 08:03:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems your daughter is friends with this mans son. What is the problem with them talking about it? It doesnt seem like your daughter is "involved", shes just comforting and adivising a friend.
I know youre trying to be protective, but at the same time your daughter should be allowed to talk to friends about problems... As long as she doesnt mind helping out this boy, then let her. From what I see its just moral support.
2006-11-12 08:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by spanish kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a great complement that the boy confides in your daughter and that he feels her advice is helpful. You must have raised your daughter really well.
This family is going through a lot right now and the support of friends and family is just what this boy needs.
However, if you as a parent feel that the communication is damaging to your daughter, you should do something about it. But if she is very open with you about this, then just keep an eye on it and let her help.
2006-11-12 08:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by divinephi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're basically asking people that you don't even know for the same- advice. Someone is going to give you some really good advice and you are going to award them 10 points.
What your daughter is doing for your friend's son is the same thing I'm doing for you- we're both giving advice on a situation, but she's even giving advice to someone she knows. You don't know anyone thats going to answer this, most likely. So if she's doing something wrong by helping someone, then I'm doing something wrong, and everyone on this site is doing something wrong, including you.
You can make the choice.
2006-11-12 08:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by James Bond Chickz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep best advice for your little girl would be to tell this fella that she doesn't want to be involved in any of this stuff. As adults we know that there is always two sides (alright three, hers - his and somewhere in between the truth) to every story. For your young daughter to get caught up in this would be a crime and something that she does not need to do at her tender age. Best of luck in trying to explain this to your girl but I do like your thoughts on her not being caught as the piggy in the middle.
2006-11-12 08:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your daughter should be there for this boy. Think of what it would be like in his situation. Would you like it if you were going through something this drastic and no one would help you or be there if you need someone to vent on or sympathize with. He needs someone other then in the family to be there for him. She is not being to nice for her own good. As long as she does not tell anyone that he does not want to know then what she is doing is a good thing.
2006-11-12 08:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they the son is reaching out to a friend of his. As much as you'd like to protect your daughter from any sort of pain, she might resent what she could see as simply interfering in her friendship. I know that my children rarely see beyond their own interest in the situation (in this case, your daughter's interest is her friend, and his pain). She sounds like a very kind hearted girl, and you are lucky to have a daughter who is so willing to help others. Just be there for her if she needs someone too.
2006-11-12 08:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Beca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your daughter feels comfortable enough to answer the questions then you should let her. this way she will learn to resolve conflict and provide advices. this way, the son will have someone to lean on while your daughter is doing good deed. but she is feeling uncomfortable then it is best that she makes it clear to the son that she doesn't want to be involved. good luck.
2006-11-12 08:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by BlueGirl007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is yr daughter? if she is a teenager then i'd leave her to it, the boy is probably messed up over what his dad has done & would need somebody to talk to.
if your daughter is an adult then i'd take care, getting involved in other peoples marital problems is always a bad idea.
2006-11-12 08:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by K W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them talk but im confused on y he wants information from your daughter, what i get is this old gf is you....idk im confused...let her handle this one on her own, if it gets to be to much for her she'll say something, until then let the boy confide in her, its all he's got now that his homelife is falling apart.
2006-11-12 08:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by lilkitty4eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should let the boy talk but not offer too much advice, it is good he is talking about it to someone, as men can be quite rubbish at getting things off their chests.
2006-11-12 08:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by LadyDeville 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋