Ok, i involuntarily asked this girl to homecoming and was really nice and sweet. Shortly after, she began to say bad things about me behind my back. After about a month of constantly hearing bad things, i totally bitched her out real bad and made fun of her for being fat and dumb. My only regret was that i was really cool with two of her best friends who I though wud totally hate me after. Yesterday. the two friends talked to me about it and said that they we are still cool since my ex-date was the one doing it for no reason but they also said that it would be a good idea to apoligize. My concern with this is that my ex-date is the type of person who wont even care when someone does something like that, she will prolly just keep saying bad things and the apology wont mean anything.
2006-11-12 07:51:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yeah if it was your fault you should apologize but in this situation... it wasn't and she seems to be a pretty lame person. if she apologizes for what she did then maybe apologize to her for what you said, but if she doesn't say anything then dont give her the pleasure of hearing you say you're sorry for something you didn't start.
2006-11-12 07:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by scolex89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't apoligize for something she overheard, which, it was said, came from you, something you said because you overheard stuff that she said about you!
In life, you will find that most people can't face others and tell them what they really think. Don't be one of them. I don't mean that you should be aggressive. No. The goal is to face people and be straightforward. If what this person might be saying is bothering you, go straight to her and ask what she's been saying and why.Tell her to stop. Be assertive. Not aggressive. You'll soon find out that people don't expect that kind of (honest) behavior and you will command respect. Bou in this instance, since you said bad stuff too, do apologize and explain that you normally don't react that way. And in the future, don't. Settle matters in a straightforward way with the concerned people.
2006-11-12 08:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by pepette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely apologize. Even if your EX-Date is a total...(you know what..."witch") it shows what kind of person you are. Specially your character! If the girl doesn't care or accept your apology it shows what kind of character she has (a bad one). People will also start realizing that she isn't that great of a person if she is talking behind peoples backs and then being rude about it when someone apologizes. Hope things go well!!! Good Luck!
2006-11-12 07:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by *Breath* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would apologize even tho u were mean that is no reason to to make fun of her cuz that hurts alott. Just apologize. At least u kno that u did ur part and if she doesnt forgive then who cares move on with your life. Oh and if u hardly see this girl(like she was jus there for the dance) then who cares, not like ur gonna see her again :)
2006-11-12 12:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by dancinqween 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably right in saying that the apology won't help. But don't do it for her, do it for yourself. Just because she like to bad mouth people doesn't mean you have to sink to her level. Pretty soon, you will find that you can say all sorts of hurtful things without feeling remorse and you don't want to be that guy.
2006-11-12 07:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize to wipe your slate clean. Then ask her for a ceasefire, so that you both can go on with the real business of school and not be the high school rumour flavour of the month.
2006-11-12 07:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by dansza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it might help you clear things up and its a nice thing to do. hopefully she does not have the mind of a middle schooler and just make fun of you for trying to apologize. then again, she is doing things that are not all that mature in the first place so be prepared...
2006-11-12 07:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Brandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should apologize but say that if she doesn't feel guilty and apologize too then you take it back.
2006-11-12 07:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then dont apoligize. thats just a waste of words if she wont even care just dont worry about her and move on.
2006-11-12 07:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize anyway. That gets it off your chest. How she chooses to deal with it is her decision.
2006-11-12 07:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋