and wants me to leave when i am having a family thing at my house and wants me to go to the store with her so she can ***** about her husband, she is in an abusive relationship, but i can not do anything about it. is she jealous of what i have with my family?
2006-11-12 07:38:00 · 7 answers · asked by granny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is a tragedy for her. Still, not only is it depressing & worrisome for you, sometimes others problems can seep in to your own & that is not fair to you. You do have your own family & they deserve your attention. Maybe time to find the number to a family crisis center & give it to her. Let her now this thing is only going to get worse & only she can do something about it. Offer to drive her there. Then mean it. Put the responsibilty back on her to make the discission. Maybe a bit of tough love might save her life & spare the children if there are any. You really can't do much more no matter how much you care about her.
2006-11-12 07:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the immediate, all you can do is probably invite her to join you and your family. Then she can see how a healthy family is suppose to be and afterwards privately ask her if she's thought about attending any support groups for abused spouses and asking her what does she plan to do about it? It might be helpful to find out where there are any support groups in or around her town, and places she can go if she decides to suddenly leave with her child that will protect them. Maybe contacting these places yourself and asking for referrals to lawyers, places to stay, support groups, checklist of things she'll need with her, so she can have quick access in case of an emergency or a sudden decision to leave the guy. You can have the stuff mailed to your house so the husband won't know. Talking to her about what she plans to do about this - let it be or get out - might help her realize that her decision to stay IS A DECISION she's made and that decision also affects her child in a serious way. You might want to consider finding a trained person she can contact that can advise her and give her some kind of assurance. You might also want to have that contact person to advise you on how to handle this with some guidance. Keep in mind that the moment she leaves this guy is the time she is most vulnerable and the risk is higher for this guy to attack her.
She might be jealous but wouldn't you be? Try to remember that none of this is about you, you can provide support and information as a responsible friend would, but ultimately its her decision and she has to be ready for it. It might also be helpful to let her know that at times, you don't know what to say to her and you don't know what to do and see how she responds to it.
2006-11-12 18:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is reaching out to you the only way she knows how. However, you are right there is nothing you can do but support her without abandoning your own family. A queue for you to maybe tell her I have information abotu Domestic Violence for you. You also can't carry her burdens all you can do is support her even if it is from a distance. I dont think she is jealous I think she is pained that she does not the family you do. Get info from your community to help her and give it to her support but set limits. You are a great friend to be so supportive hats off to you.
2006-11-12 15:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by newtooocala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live your life, be happy, let her know that you will always be their for her, but she needs to leave him alone and think about her child. abuse can lead to death, get her some help, she needs counseling. she con fies in you she feels that she can trust you and she really needs you right now, but your family comes first. talk to her about this make her realize that she needs to talk to a professional about her problems.
2006-11-12 15:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by hugabug72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unhappy people just can't stay to see good family's or happy peoples life. She just hate you doesn't matter who and nice you are. Jealousy is not enough to express .
2006-11-12 15:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she might be jealous.but let her go on with her life and you go on with yours.try to get alittle apart from her i think cus she has a srewed up family she wants you to have one too.i'm not saying to brake up your friendship because even though she does it she needs your frienship. :)
2006-11-12 15:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful Fat Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it nothing you could do about that it all up to her to end the relationship
2006-11-12 15:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋