I seem to be questioning my friendship with my close female friend.The reasons being is that when I told her how I felt she said no because she didn't want to risk losing the friendship.Other reasons included:
1)Her view of a relationship is what we already do(apart from physical), so I asked would it be that wrong to add the physical aspect to it.She said NO, but that it wouldn't feel right-what does this mean?
2)She said we wouldn't work out as a couple but said she does not know why--has got a feeling,would not even give it a try.
3)Said I'm attractive,but its just ME as a whole that she does not see herself being with.What's this mean?
4)Said she don’t deserve my feelings,someone else does
5)Said I was too easy/available-meaning?
SHE ALWAYS TELLS ME THE TRUTH-WUD NOT LIE TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER/SPARE FEELINGS,IS ALWAYS HONEST
Not spoken for 6 days now:
What is she thinking\feeling??
Will she get in touch with me?? Why hasn't she got in touch asking whats up??
Advice?
2006-11-12 07:37:52 · 9 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What do her reasons mean? She’s txt my friend asking if he knows whats up with me,why hasn’t she txt asking me???Will we remain friends,why has she gone quiet on me??
2006-11-12 07:39:12 · update #1
First of all she is waiting for you to contact her, as she turned you down, she is probably wondering if you are still talking/friends with her.
She dosen't wanna change the relationship because the way it is feels safe, and she dosen't wanna change/risk that. By her saying that she dosen't deserve you shows she is maybe a bit insecure and has been hurt in the past, she feels she wouldn't live up to your expectations, Saying your easy means she would be worried that you wouldn't stay faith ful, or you would be off with the next bit of skirt that looked your way, is it that she has seen you cheat or heard how you talk even when your with someone?
Trust her when she says she wouldn't lie, chill out, txt her saying your sorry if you put her in a difficult situation but it's was because how lovely you think she is, then go back to normal, go out like normal, don't put it off or you''ll both feel weird, just from now on make sure you don't chat up girls in front of her or talk about cheating etc, then you never know, maybe next time she'll be asking you, if it's meant to be you'll get together in time.
2006-11-12 08:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she doesnt feel the same and is trying not to hurt you by being blunt and honest... i no u said she wudnt lie but sometimes we do make the truth sound very rosie or varied wen we dont no wat else to say. i think she prob doesnt no wat to say now and feels awkward which is y she hasnt contacted u. i thinks she's prob hoping ul take her hint and leave it at that,if she values ur friendship shes not gona want to delve into possible details like "i just dont fancy u",u wudn't get over that and neither wud she. also wen a guys seems very available its not appealing and often wen u cant have someone u want them more... i think u should contact her and try to come to some conclusion for ur own sake,but dont push her.accept her decision and try to move on. harsh i no but wat else can be done, she no's how u feel now so the ball is in her court. hope ive helped... good luck!!!
2006-11-12 08:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by stilletto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt want a relationship with u!!!! She liked it the way it was and now maybe she feels uncomfortable knowing u feel this way. I guess she feels under pressure to let u down gently
2006-11-12 07:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by kate 0504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's scared to get into a relationship, or maybe she really is just scared to lose as good a friendship as she has with you. I think you should get in touch with her, and talk it out with her.
2006-11-12 07:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I think she's scared. I would be scared myself. I hate loosing good friends. I already lost couple of friends and don't want to loose any more.
2006-11-12 07:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Shibadog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me she sees you more as a brother than a partner, and the reason you havnt talked could be b/c she is waiting for YOU to contact HER
2006-11-12 07:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shorty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just wants to be friends if you cannot handle this find other friends this is the porblem being friends with men.
2006-11-12 07:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she values your freindship very much and trustme sex will change your freindship you can always find another girl but not another best freind TRUST ME I KNOW
2006-11-12 07:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by kelly r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just does not fancy you ,live with it
2006-11-12 07:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by karen. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋