I feel like my husband and i are not getting along at all there is alot of stress on both of us including moving to a whole new city(ny to houston and a new baby.I feellike everything wrong he does to me is all hitting me now and I am afraid I am falling out of love with him trust me I dont want to leave cause he still has a place in my heart but we seem like we cant stand each other and it just hurts so bad.I feel like he always hiding something from me even if he isnt but he has did some bad things to me like cheat and lie but has made up for it we been together 3 years aand why now I am so tired of him????
2006-11-12 07:19:17 · 3 answers · asked by Lexy320 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I meant GOES
2006-11-12 07:25:24 · update #1
Oh dear, maybe you are putting too much emphasis on your marriage. It seems that the new car smell has worn off. It sounds like you still love your husband, but you feel as though something is missing. It is, your life. Whatare you doing with yourself to decompress? Your mate and your child shouldn't be the only focus in life. Get a hobby. I mean that in the most genuine and caring way. Find a healthy form of exercising those mental muscles that will also boost your self esteem. And for goodness sake, do not get involved with another man, any kind of way. You have to realize that you are going thru a new chapter in your life, it is growing pains that you are having, just like when you were an adolescent. Keep the activity simple but very rewarding.Your blues will pass, but keep your personal activity.
2006-11-12 07:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I made a big move too...MA to TX. Its hard on a relationship especially if youve been moved away from family and friends. I found myself blaming him for my lonliness. The best advice that I was given was to wait it out. Wait until you get over your homesickness which wont take a couple months it could take more then a year. A new baby is very stressfull too. And the more stressed you and your husbands relationship is, the harder it will be with your baby because your child is very sensitive to what you are feeling and reacts accordingly. Try not to nitpick him for every little thing. And definatly address to him how you are feeling. If he is up for it, try counseling. Also I agree with finding something to do to get you out of the house and relaxed. Maybe a playgroup with your baby, or joining a gym. It will help relieve your stress at home. I jined a playgroup and i found a friend there with a child. Now I find myself not getting so upset with my husband for little things because I am enjoying myself more. Your most likely not falling out of love, your just frustrated. Keep trying, its too easy just to call it quits. Everyone hits these rough patches. I hope everything gets better for you.
2006-11-12 15:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by htmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, James R is very insightful. Excellent answer and I believe he's hit the nail on the head. Do something for you too. This is a new location look for new friends, new activities and such. Talk to your husband about it too. He may be interested as well.
2006-11-12 15:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dorkboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋