Help me, I am so lost and alone?

Question

I am 19 years old, pregnant, and I am in college. I live with 2 other girls in a dorm apartment. One of my roommates got mad at me the other morning, and I don't know what I did. I think I was stiffiling too much and woke her up, so I try not to do that too much. I help out with everything and I am nice and everything, but all of a sudden she is so annoyed with me. I tried to talk to her, but she doesn't want to talk to me. I tried to go to the store with her because she was walking and so was I, so I thought we could walk together and patch things up. We used to be cool with each other. I try to stay out of her way, I just don't know what I did and I feel so alone now, cause the other roommate and her are like two peas in a pod and I'm the odd one out. I feel so out of place. I don't know what to do, I only have one month left here to live until school is out. What should I do? I am so lost and lonely...

Yes, the father is apart of my life, I have to finish the semester to get out of this dorm then I can move in with him and we are getting married.

Answer 1

It's hard living with someone. I would just leave her alone and focus on trying to keep your stress down. How far along are you? It could just be that you're on an emotional rollercoaster, I was (and am) with all my pregnancies. I'm around your age and 12 weeks pregnant, so if you want to me to kinda be there throughout it you're more than welcome to email me at [e-mail] I hope all gets better with the living situation, and just remember that nothing lasts forever. She may get over it soon.

Answer 2

You are pregnant and 19 and your hormones are crazy. Dealing with issues that may be small normally, seem huge right now.

She probably doesn't even realize what she is doing. But how will you ever know what is wrong if you don't find out. I would ask her directly, did I do anything to make you mad at me? If she says no, then leave it at that and carry on. Why would you want to cause yourself anxiety and stress in your condition. If you feel like the odd person out, then do something about it. Go out with other people. You only have 1 month to endure it. Where's the baby daddy. Maybe he could help you feel less isolated.

Answer 3

You could ask them if there is a problem. Or just get on with your life. College is temporary. Frankly, I think they are not very good friends. They ought to be more understanding of your situation. Pregnancy can be trying. Either way, one month is not too much more time with them. Maybe you can abide your time as best as possible. Maybe you can find some other friends . Does the college have anything or anyplace for mother-to-bes to meet and discuss things? There are likely more girls feeling alone. Perhaps you could arrange a group get-together.

Answer 4

your friend is being or rather is acting like a child. if you are not sure what you did then probably she's just mad at the situation that you are in right now, after all you are 19 and pregnant. the best that you can do is to resolve the situation that has arised right now. At that stage you need as much support from everyone that you can get. try not to stress to much about it. you need to relax and think of what is best for you and your baby.
do the best that you can to talk to both of your room mates and explain to her that you never meant to do anything to hurt her or anyone else. it would be best to have her on your side than to not have her at all. in the mean time, try to stay out of their way and don't too hard to get an answer out of her. however, settle all odds that you guys have before you leave. that way you have one less load on your shoulder.

Answer 5

A student & pregnant you are under enough pressure, not good for you or the baby. You need to talk to some body first. I am sure your college must have counsellors. They could give you a starting point. I think you need a different living situation. Maybe there is a group where you can meet with other girls who are in a similar situation. That might open up your world at this time & you do need somebody to talk with. Whatever the problems your roommates have for sure they are no help to you so move on. You can't get stuck worrying about them. Please find somebody to talk to.

Answer 6

#1 where is the father of your baby, he is taking responiblity with you? Being pregnant you will have mood swings, and you will be mad at yourself. Don't depend on other people to make you happy. You have to have a change of attitude about yourself and the baby. Go for a walk and talk to your baby, you will be surprise how your thoughts will affect the outcome of your child.
When I was pregnant I would read to my son and talk out loud. some people thought that this was stupid, well today my son is gifted and doctors have come to the realize that your thoughts do have to do with the childs outcome.

Good Luck, and join a support group for pregnant ladies and their babies. If there is not one already at your school start one. I use to do volunteer work with single teenagers who were along and searching for support.

A former unmarried mother

Answer 7

You might want to ask your college's RA (resident assistant) for help in finding another dorm apartment. It sounds like you are being triangulated ( the scapegoat) and that this situation won't get better. You might also want to start going to a college counselor for your low self-esteem issues and ask her/him for ways to become more resilient and assertive. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I think there is an undercurrent going on here, sit down with both of them and ask them what is the problem. you may be surprised at the answer

Answer 9

First let me say how sorry I am that you are feeling this way. I suggest finding new roommates. You don't need them if they're going to exclude you or make you feel isolated.

Good Luck...

P

Answer 10

I believe that your pregnancy is what's creating the tension; they may not know how to respond to you, or may be disappointed in you. Try talking to them openly, and honestly. You may be surprised with how they respond!