Me, my husband and our 2 kids live in a tiny 2 bedroom flat! He has loads of friends round this area and i do not know anyone (even though we have lived here for 2 years now!), I want to move back to the estate where i lived for most of my life, my mum lives there, my family lives there and so do most of my friends, It is only about 45 mins walk from where we live now but noone comes to see me apart from my mum as it is still quite a trek and hardly anyone i know drives, My husband does not want to move as he like it where we are as it is close to work and close to his mates, Am i selfish to ask him to move to this area,but like i said to him he can get a bike and go to his mates on that and also ride to his freinds. Its not as easy for me as i have the 2 young kids with me most of the time if i am not working!I am thinking of moving without him! Surely he would follow?Also none of us drive but he is doing his lessons and will soon be doing his test. What do you people think i shold do
2006-11-12 07:16:00 · 12 answers · asked by noone 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I bet if he is worth a shilling, he will move right after you do. Simply move back to the estate, and if he follows, wonderful. If not, then perhaps it is for the best.
Let him know you are not leaving him, but are getting things in order. He can come along at the mo'or a bit later.
If after a month or so, if he doesn't you can tell him to saw it off, or whatever you like.
2006-11-12 22:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this. You must be lonely.
If you're taking care of two little ones... AND you don't drive, it's best to be near your family and friends. For your sake in case anything happened and for your children's sake.
Forty-five minutes is not that long of a commute (at least where I live). You and your husband are a team. I think it's his turn to give up the convenience of where you are now and consider what's best for the family.
That's what being a grown-up is all about.
Good luck.
2006-11-12 15:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult question.
Would it be possible for all of you to move to somewhere in the middle of his people and yours?
You have to let him know, as gently as possible, that you're not happy with the situation. Ask him his advice in solving it. Try not to give ultimatums, it might get his back up and make him stick his heels in.
Breaking up the family should be avoided if at all possible, but equally, one person being happy at the expense of the other, doesn't make a healthy environment in which to raise children.
Don't leave it too long, otherwise you may find yourself getting resentful of him, which will only lead to arguments, etc.
2006-11-12 15:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jamma354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lived there for 2yrs. and have made no friends how come?, doesn't your husband's friends have wives or girlfriend, sounds to me like you need to get a babysitter and have sometime to yourself. You are not selfish, you want to move closer to your mom so you will have someone to talk to and help out with the kids, wait until he get his driving license and then you can get yours, don't just leave the problem is not your husband it is location.
2006-11-12 15:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain your unhappy, learn to drive and go visit your friends when you can, maybe a compromise on location????? Life set up for your husband but you need a socail life too, cant be easy meeting new people,all I can suggest is joing some lcoal club where you'll make new friends
2006-11-12 19:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to both sit down and talk it out. Let him know your true feelings lol lol lol flippin eck they never listen innit. But do your best and I hope you get a garden for the children xx
2006-11-12 18:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband need to sit down and talk this through - make a list of pros and cons - make a good choice together
2006-11-12 15:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever HE can do, YOU can do as well.
Walk with your yunguns, OR get yourself a bike with a trailer.
The fresh air, and exercise will be of great benefit to you!
2006-11-12 15:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my god....why did you marry him ...didnt you know that before ...why did you go there in the first place....get the bike for you and buy a trailer for the back...put your kids in it ...he works and its very close to the house ...make new freinds it isnt that hard try it...
2006-11-12 15:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family should come first! Move already!
2006-11-12 15:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by red9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋