Why do I feel so down and what can I down about it?

Question

I'e been feeling really self destructive recently and I have a perpetual 'can be bothered' feeling. I used to be a really motivated individual who did well in school. I've been offered an interview to study veterinary science and it's what I've always wanted.

But just recently I've been, well I guess the work is depressed. I don't know if it's due to pressure or the fact that I have an unresolved relationship or than family life isn't exactly great but something is wrong.
Has anyone else had a similar experinec and how can I get out of the dumps and back to normal again?
Thanx, a rather sad girl

Answer 1

I'm in the same boat - have a look at my last question!

Answer 2

Sounds like you're in a rut, doll. My guess it is a combination of these, and, as someone else has suggested, a seasonal thing also.

I'd suggest taking time out, getting away for a little bit, go someplace sunny and take some good books or do something absorbing ... the idea is to take your conscious mind off what's bothering you, and let your subconscious deal with it. There's a lot to be said about 'sleeping on a problem'! That absorbing activity, by the way, can be helping other people, like voluntary work, as someone else has suggested.

As for figuring out what to do about the things that are bothering you, well, the unresolved relationship will either be resolved or not - until then you can do nothing about it. As for family life, well, that's very rarely great for anyone, is it? People present such a great picture, but often things are a loss less wonderful behind the scenes, but that's the tangle of family relationships and people get into patterns of behaviour that are very hard to change.

The thing is, you can only change yourself and your own stuff, not anyone else's. I'm only saying this because you have cited relationships as others as possible causes, and if those others in these relationships don't want to change, there's nothing you can do about it - the important thing to remember is that THAT'S THEIR PROBLEM.

You, on the other hand, have come to a point you have worked for for a long time - congratulations, by the way - and you can do things for yourself.

Of course, this emotion you're feeling might also be a downer after all the hard work, suddenly the goal is within sight and your personal goalposts are in for a change ... so it may not be that something is wrong, something might just be different. You say you used to be a really motivated individual, now that the end seems to be in sight, have you perhaps lost what may be the source of your motivation? Again, the same advice goes, you can change things for yourself ....

Answer 3

well first of all have u ever thought it could be sad dissorder lots of people get it at this time of year its seasonal dissorder or maybe u just need a little boost have u thought of anti deppresants for a little while i know threr not the answer to every thing but its a short term thing try talking to a close friend dont bottle it all up i know its ok asking people on a computer but try that and good luck hope u feel happier soon its not nice feeling sad

Answer 4

hey,

sounds like depression to me, though you should see your doctor about it...... it could be that your body isn't producing enough serotonin which is making you feel down in the dumps...

congratulations by the way.... to study veterinary science requires alot of effort and sacrifice, my brother is doing a veterinary science degree, and i know how hard he work's, he has 2 years left.

always remember that somewhere there is someone worse off than yo, be grateful for what you have, surround yourself with positive things, and try and resolve any disputes/troubles by talking them through..... ' a problem shared is a problem halved'

things don't go away by burring your head in the sand.....

good luck

Answer 5

It is all the loose ends that are just draining your energy

I got like you, I was told it was because I had to many doors open in my head and worried about everyone else's happeness.....

I just realised I could not take on everyone else's problems.....

Sort relationship out one way or the other and family talk to them it does help

then all ur energy can go on work


I don't believe in tablets unless its a last resort, there is a difference between burn out or fed up to clinical depression.......

Obviously if you can't see ur way through to tomorrow it is depression so see ur doctor

Answer 6

Go spend a few hours as a volunteer at your local hospital. Go round the wards asking for a song request for the hospital radio or something. Make sure you visit a childs cancer ward and a geriatric ward.

Go home and see if you feel any better.

Answer 7

Go and get proffesional help love - talk to your GP and he can offer help whether it be counsilling or anti depressants. If its the latter - dont feel wrong taking them, they may be short term only and can do wonders to get you back on track. Dont just leave it - if its been with you more than a few days you need help xxxx

Answer 8

spoil yourself, go to the hairdressers, have a massage, anything to pamper yourself. if you havnt alot of money then buy a cheap 99p face mask, sit in a bubbly bath with candles and just chill out. or if that dont work, when you get up in the morning put a livley radio station on, it does the trick for me, i land up dancing round the kitchen and my kids think im mental.

Answer 9

ive had far worse sad times...the simple way is.you can,t change the past..but you can change the future..we only live once..so we have to believe in ourselves..through the the thick and thin.. hold our chins up high. with dignity and pride..

Answer 10

thats life.