Here's the deal.We have found the house of our dreams,but there is a catch I'm wrestling with my concience on.The lady who owns the house is in a nursing home and will not be leaving,no one in her family wants the house,and her son wants us to rent it until she passes away,at which time he will sell to us,minus the cost of repairs we will be investing.Our lawyer and his are waiting for us to say yes or no,the legalities are taken care of,but in your opinion,would this be morally wrong?To...be waiting for someone to pass away?Could you do it?
2006-11-12 06:57:50 · 19 answers · asked by munesliver 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I believe you have nothing to feel guilt or pangs from concience over. Here in Ar I have known several people who have done similar The family often can't sell the house before the patient in Nursing Home dies or they may forfiet the money to the state related to nursing home medicaid coverage on the patient. If your lawyer says its legal and you want to buy this home in the long run. I would go for it. After all if you decide later you can find better deal else where all your out is rent.
Good luck.
2006-11-12 07:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by slichick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see this is a very difficult situation but i feel that you are not hurting anyone by moving into the house and if its your dream house then go for it at the end of the day its going to make you happy just dont think about the lady in the nursing home try and put her out your head and think you are renting the house from a man who is considering selling up and he is going to give you first refusal of the house. Follow your heart hope you make the right choice.
2006-11-12 15:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not morally wrong. If you were purchasing the house without the woman's knowledge, just taking it away from her while she convalesces in a nursing home, I think that would be morally wrong. I would assume from the info you have given, the son is the next of kin in charge of her estate, he is making all of her legal decisions. Since she is still alive, it seems as if she would be aware of what is going on. As far as what I would do, as long as I knew she was filled in, I would take the deal.
It is a sad situation but think of it this way, her home will once again be full of life, belonging to another family who will cherish it as much as she did. That's life, it moves on.
2006-11-12 15:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by feather girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So..............in other words, the son has power of attorney, and wants to make a buck on Mom's house while waiting for her to die. Then he will legally own the house, and immediately sell it, to you, the guaranteed buyer, who is already living in the house, and make a pretty little profit on it, with no effort at all. Yeah. actually, I would have a problem with that. But, I don't see another way either, unless the Mom is able to sign the papers herself, and sell you her house. So, while he is waiting for his Mama to die, he expects you to throw away your hard earned money on rent? Plus, do repairs? Or is the rent going to be applied to your down payment, or taken off the purchase price? Yep...I have problems with that.
But it's the son's actions I have a probelm with.
2006-11-12 15:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by persnickety1022 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How bad of shape (health wise) is this lady? At first you'll only be renting the house. So if some reason the lady gets better you can always find another place. But since you are already living there, if she does pass away, you'll get the house. I would take it. If you don't someone else will and then you'll be kicking yourself in the rear.
2006-11-12 15:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a moral problem with it. If they won't or can't sell it now, someone will have to rent it or it will sit empty.
As for the legal aspect, I would be very careful. I would want the selling price stated in the contract & a way out if I decided that I didn't want to buy it after living in it for a while.
2006-11-12 15:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see your concern but she is in a nursing home. The house will just be sitting there. As long as you aren't wishing for her death, then there is nothing wrong with the arrangement. I am sure that she would want someone living there who would appreciate the house and take good care of it.
2006-11-12 15:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? How do you figure you'd be waiting for her to pass away? You'd be renting the house, making repairs and buying it with the contingency it will be legal and binding to purchase at the time of her passing. That's not waiting for her death but rather waiting to purchase upon her death........
2006-11-12 15:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by silhouette 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not really morally wrong for you to take the house. If you have
the house of your dreams, then go for it.
2006-11-12 15:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mailman Bob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really morally wrong. If you don`t purchase the property someone else will so buy it!
2006-11-12 15:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by Carol H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋