im 17and im pregnant. i want to keep my baby. i know once i tell my mom she will kick me out and i will have no choice but to stay with my boyfriend. if that happens i will feel bad because my mom works so hard to take care of the house and keep food in the house...i feel like i will be completly disrespectful...but im also 17 and im growing up...some advice please
2006-11-12 06:56:42 · 15 answers · asked by KDUB100 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
OMG! I know what you mean, I had my son the day before I turned 17. I didnt tell my mom till I was 28 weeks pregnant. I was so scared and I just couldnt do that to her in person. I ended up telling her over the phone. I told her 'I think I am pregnant" to me that just sounded better than 'hey mom, guess what, I'm pregnant' I too thought that she would kick me out. She didnt. She was very upset and very sad but didnt kick me out. She wasa mad for a while but got over it and now she loves him to death, and says that she wishes that she would have delt with it better. I kept my son and have had no help from his dad, at all. I went to school and worked 40 hours a week just so I could do it on my own. I wish you all the luck in the world!
2006-11-12 07:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by MICHELLE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelly, I'm so glad you want to keep your baby. You have a beautiful little person inside you, and once you hold him or her in your arms and gaze into those little eyes, you will know you did the right thing!
When you tell your mom you are keeping your baby, tell her that you do appreciate everything she does to take care of you, and that you are sorry for causing her pain. Let her know, though, that just as she has taken care of you, you now need to take care of your child. Just as she has taken responsibility, you now need to take responsibility. Speak calmly and with determination. You are now a mother, and you need to act like it. Getting upset and emotional will only make things worse.
You may have been disrespectful to your mother in the past. It was disrespectful of you to put yourself in a position where you became pregnant (I hope you don't mind my bluntness), and you can apologize for that if you want. However, it is NOT disrespectful of you to protect your baby now, and you do NOT need to feel sorry about that or apologize for it. It is the right thing to do. You can do this.
2006-11-14 03:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat as you. i was 17 when I gave birth to my daughter.
My mom and dad were so upset all my mother talked about was kicking me out and making me get a job andall this.
But than my mom came along about a month or two later. She is a real great grandparents to my children.
I am sure that your mom wont kick you out of the house if she has a heart.
I know she might be upset with you but sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel!
I hope everything works out the best for you@
2006-11-12 08:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by crazziegrl14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im 16 and im about to have my son either the end of this month or either the first of next month. I keep it from my grandma for 2months and i finally had to confess b/c i needed to make sure that im gunna have a healthy child. Look just face it you must tell you mother i felt the same way you did but when i told her and she was by my side 100% of the way. Trust me if your mother loves you enough to raise for 17 years...she'll alway be there for you. But you will be 18...so sooner or later it will be your time to become your own woman and get out on your own and take care of your baby and be a successful woman.
2006-11-12 07:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by His Fiance of 2009 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell a family member who you trust, or an adult, a friend of your mom, who you feel comfortable with, not a stranger, have them sit down with you, when you tell your mom the news.
It maybe a shock for her, and parents always want the best for their children, but you maybe surprise about your moms response.
Also this is not a solo-you-against the world thing, the same conversation you and your boyfriend need to have with BOTH of your parents, so you can even get all parties together, and share the news.
It takes a village to raise a child, and you and your boyfriend will need all the help you can get.
Be brave.
2006-11-12 07:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by * Deep Thought * 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well here's my advice if you mom kicks you out well then fine just move in with your boyfriend and then get married and finish school that is the most important thing you need an edjucation or else you won't get a good job and your baby will possible live in poverty. I Just hope you get a good job , get married, get a high school edjucation , and have a healthy life with your baby. Good Luck! You are incredibly strong to have to go through this. I have faith in you and all teen mothers.
2006-11-12 07:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by dragonflygurl_32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to realize what you're taking on. A baby is a lot of responsibility. How are you going to care for it? How will you support it? There is a lot to consider when you decide to keep your child. You're past being disrespectful at this point ... the damage has already been done. Talk with your Mom ... yes, she'll be upset ... but she may surprise you and be more supportive than you expect. Best wishes ...
2006-11-12 07:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bonny K 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Speak to a counsellor straight away. Give your Mom more credit as well she may be more supportive then you think. This is a decision that effects not only the rest of your life but your boyfriends and an innocent baby.
2006-11-12 07:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all If she kicks you out than that is her loss and not yours. You have to think about you and the baby now and not about her feelings. Yes that was not a great thing to do (get pregnant) but accidents happen and she will have to accept. I bet she will be better about it than you think.
Good Luck
2006-11-12 07:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have your whole life to have babies, right now you should enjoy your teen years. Why don't you evaluate all the options available to you. Abortion is always something to consider, but if you don't like that idea then please strongly consider adoption. You should see the movie "15 and Pregnant" yes it is on lifetime lol. In that movie the girl has the baby and gives it up for an open adoption, where it is raised by another set of parents but she gets to see the baby weekly and the child knows that she is the woman who gave birth. Your baby can still be in your life and you can still pursue your dreams. Good luck
2006-11-12 07:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋