i have an abusive family member, and he comes over every night.and he is so mean. it gets really bad when he's durnk or high. and i don't know who to go to.can someone please give me advice?
2006-11-12 06:27:00 · 12 answers · asked by Princess Jessie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Look in the phone book for abuse hotlines for your area. They will be better able to help you deal and or change your situation better than anyone on this forum. Do it right now! This has got to stop immediately.
2006-11-12 06:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, a step family member of myne was living with me and was alright when he was sober but no sooner he got to drinking and getting high it got so much worse and i had a talk with him and i told him i wont allow it at all, it went okay for like 3 weeks and he was back to the same stuff finally the second time i had a talk with him and i told him look if you dont stop your crap i will call the cops i dont need to put up with it and neither does the rest of the household, and than that third time came around when he had told me some of the "other" stuff he was doing and also when he told me that he was spying on me and he was drunk when he said this so i picked that phone up walked outside and i called 911 and i told them my situation and i was connected the cops station and i told them if you dont come here right now my house is going to be destroyed this man is dangerous he is threating me that he will burn my house down and all kinds of stuff and finally the cops came down and when they finally showed up the guy had calmed down some what but i wasnt going to take any chances i told them to take him away and after that i put a restraining order against him. So instead of giving this person three trys just give him that one try and do it or you can give him three trys and let him know what you are going to do and if you dont want it to get worse you put a restraining order on him the night you call and its free, cause you know that if they are arrested they are going to want to get revenge and that could get serious so a restraining order would be a great idea the night the cops come or if you dont want the cops to come call the cops up and ask for an abusive hotline number. I truly hopes this helps you out. Good Luck
2006-11-12 14:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you under age 18? Go to the counselor at your school. They will make it stop and keep you safe. They have to report it to Protective Services. Don't worry, if you are a teenager they will not take you out of the home. They will talk to your parents and tell them that this person can not come to your home. It will be better for everyone. In the short haul it might not seem so, but in the long run everyone will thank you for it and you will be safe.
If you are an adult, do you have some say in his coming over? Is he your relative or your husband's. It would help if I knew your age. You do not have to put up with this in your own home. You can get a restraining order against him, but that might make the abuse worse. It would be best for you to leave and get another place and not tell anyone where you are. There are safe houses in your town, if you live in the U.S. that will take you and your children (if you have any) in. Look in the phone book or call the local Community Mental Health hotline.
Take care.
2006-11-12 14:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop letting him come over, second talk with other family members about the situation, and third if he becomes physically violent call the police and file reports so that you can get a restraining order and press charges. You may also benefit from a support group. There should be one in your area, look for your county's mental health website in a search engine. Remember its not your fault and there is help out there.
2006-11-12 14:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by LesHug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can call 911 and have him arrested for disturbing the peace. You can also call 911 and say that he's being a "danger to others" and a danger to your property . Then ask the cops to take him to your local hospital emergency room for a psychological evaluation and detox. Good luck!
2006-11-12 14:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he is in the home, drunk/high, breaking things - then CALL THE POLICE and file the police report -- especially if he is beating or abusing someone physically in some form or another.
2006-11-12 14:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u cant tell your parents how about another member of your family like an aunt or uncle?
2006-11-12 14:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by LMH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him not to come over any more, if he does call the police or the consulting firm of Smith and Wesson.
2006-11-12 14:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him for some time and if he still does the same take help of senior family memebers if still he does the same report to police.
2006-11-12 14:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by ravishr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple answer tell your family and get the police
2006-11-12 14:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by JOHN jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋