Mostly because of using the kids to get what she wants, and at the end she does, all the time. Ideally I would like to slice her head off but don't want to end up in jail. What could I do instead?
2006-11-12 06:26:45 · 11 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
cant do the time dont do the crime just get on with it or dump him
2006-11-12 06:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by porker animal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly sure how shes using them, but you may want to talk to your hubby and let him know your not happy. It depends on what the situation is on visitation and who has custody, so theres a lot more that needs to be identified. Its not a simple answer when come to exs, kids and new marriages, take this slow or it may get worse and then the kids start taking sides, so be careful and relax.
Good Luck!
2006-11-12 06:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by kevin T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your partner needs to get some balls and stand up to this woman, the more he lets her away with black-mailing him with the kids the more she is going go to do it.
Get him to speak to a solicitor and get something down on legal paper about access and the how much he should give her a month for child support.
He she continues with this then tell him to take her to court for sole custody of the children explaining to her that he feels its better for the kids not be used as emotional black-mail for whenever she needs something.
He NEEDS to stop this now for the kids sake.
2006-11-12 06:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by debs1701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Sorry I'm in the same boat. I divorced and remarried. Wifey had the same type of problem. She just gave the first everything she wanted and was so nice to her it made her sick. The children have grown up and they know of their mothers ways and understand now. Don't do anythig rash. Just love you're partner and feel for him. It aint that easy on him either, believe me. Time will prevail, goodluck.
2006-11-12 06:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie1964 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Watch the language. 2) You knew he had kids when you started seeing him, so you didn't go into this blindly. Either learn to deal with her like a adult, or get a new partner. HIS kids come first, not you, and he has to deal with the mother....
However, if she is out of line, he does have the right to take her back to court for interfering, slandering, and a lot of other parental rights. Look them up for your state.
2006-11-12 06:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm that's a hard question to answer with out more details.I myself have a ex-wife.Now I know for a fact their is many ex's who use the kids to get what they want.Does your better half include you in the decision making when it comes to the kids?That is were you have some control.Don't get angry.Use you head to get what you want.The ex is.So should you.Can't think when you angry.
Wishing you luck
2006-11-12 06:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by geargrinderno1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, and there is nothing you can do until the kids grow up. Just love your hubby. Alternatively, you can always send an anonimous letter/ Xmas card with some 'nice' words... wicked!
2006-11-12 06:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by ribena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh to hold that power. i have daughter in law who has twice banned us from seeing grandkids when things dont go her way. i told her she might hold our son (who has the life of hell with her) to ransom but shw wont do it with us. in the end it's her kids heads she's messing with.
2006-11-13 05:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your with someone who has kids...sorry to say...the ex will always be part of your partners life be it good or bad..she'll always be there...like it or not...it's fact...you may have to just bite your lip and try to ignore her childish behaviour...it will only cause problems with you and your patner...she may be part of his past but she does not have to be part of your future...ignore her
2006-11-12 06:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore her don,t let her get to you, show she does not bover you. raise above it.
2006-11-12 07:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋