2 months ago my wife said she didnt know if she wanted to be with me we fight often i used to be controling and am trying very hard to change ive lost 14 pounds in a week due to stress i love her more then life but she is so cold to me and just keeps saying she doesnt think it will work what do i do please help me
2006-11-12 06:22:46 · 9 answers · asked by travis c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok ive been tryin ive taken her flowers to work took her out last night she is seeing a counseler but refuse to go to one as acouple and im not aloud to know what she talks to him about wich i have come to understand we have too kids been toghter for nine years married for 6 she gets mad at me when i cry because i am so affraid fo loosing her i dont know what to do anymore i feel like a piece of my soul is bieng ripped from my chest i oove her more then anything she wont call it over but keeps sayiong she doesnt think it wuill work do i hold on do i be the bigger person
2006-11-12 06:30:48 · update #1
You need to pray to God for direction and answers.........
2006-11-12 06:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by kirby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So,. you spent years being a controlling butt head. Then, after taking it for years, until she finally reached her limit, and told you that she's had enough, and it's over. Now want some magic answer to make things all better. Sorry, it isn't that way. A marriage isn't like a computer, where you can hit the delete key, and wipe something out. It may be fixable, it may not be. All you can do is hope she'll allow you to stay married to her. Actually, it probably doesn't matter. IF she decides to try again, you'll probably soon revert to being a control freak again, cuz you obviously like doing that, or it never would have been a problem in the first place.
2006-11-12 15:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to go get counseling on your own.......If you used to be controlling...chances are you still have the problem., contolling people dont change in a short amount of time......2 months dont cure that.....Losing 14 lbs in a week indicates you are SUPER upset......probally becuase you are getting the picture that you can no longer control her....or what happens to your relationship....YOU are in a constant state of emotional reaction....u need counseling to help yourself....only then can you help your situation....Good for her for getting help....Do the same......
2006-11-12 15:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on yourself for a bit. Go to counseling for anger management or other issues, go to church, talk to people. Take a breather from calling her. You have to show her (and yourself) that you are truly ready to change.
2006-11-12 14:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something romantic. take her out to a nice dinner. send her roses at work. be creative and dont give up. Also let her have fun with her friends to show your less controlling
2006-11-12 14:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, she has probably realised that she can find happiness somewhere else without being controlled.
2006-11-12 14:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless your willing to see a counselor with her then it sounds like she has made up her mind. I do imagine that there is alot more to your story.
2006-11-12 14:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will if she hates u she dose not love u so loves some one new so talk 2 her about it!
2006-11-12 14:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by jessica a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go and be happy.
2006-11-12 14:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋