I think all of the "you can do anything you set your mind to" comments of my child hood that were supposed to help me keep my head up are actualy making me miserable. Basically i feel like a complete failure because i am not a rock star, model, millionaire, and have not accomplished anything great. I think i need a little less drive to succeed and a little more self acceptance maybe? I find myself trying to write music enstead of doing my homework (college). etc.. does anyone else feel this way? like maybe they just need to be ok with being average? And the example to my kids that i just don't approve of what i have become isnt good either.
Any feedback?
2006-11-12 06:15:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all -- why focus on Rock Star, Model, Millionaire -- which is a warped point of life -- just look at how these folks live and the low morals they have ... I CERTAINLY do NOT want these as life goals -- and they are not something to aspire to anyway.
Self Acceptance comes when you look at the skills you have (and have you really explored your interests fully?) and take them to the next level -- gain additional instruction to help you become a better student, better at studying and completing projects and tests, and develop STEP GOALS -- the little points where you say -- this is my next STEP in the road to success that I HAVE DETERMINED is what I want to do -- so I can achieve this success by: a b c etc.
2006-11-12 07:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that not everyone can be a rock star or a model. It is ludicrous to feel like a failure about something you cannot be.
Being a millionaire isn't out of the picture in this day and time if that is what you want.
Man, there are millionaires all over the place nowadays. Not really a big deal with the economy being the way it is.
But it is time for you to have a reality check.
Don't allow yourself to get all obsessed about something you can't possibly achieve in the first place.
Keep focused on the things you know.
If it is necessary for you to finish school to get the job required to provide for your family, then finish what you started.
You may be perceiving yourself as average, but that may not be case. The key word is perceiving.
Sounds like you really have things going for you and there is no reason for you to be down on yourself because you aren't rubbing elbows with the super rich.
2006-11-12 14:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy. You seem to have self esteem/self worth issues. You are a parent, you have to ask yourself if you are possibly raising a person who will go on to do something that you yourself have not achieved. Don't you think it's a possibility that, that in itself is your purpose or job in life? We can't all be in the history books.
2006-11-12 14:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be a college professor, or a movie star to be an exceptional person. You are an exceptional person because God made us "all" individuals, so you're exceptional just because you are "you!" okay?
2006-11-12 14:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their limitations. Some people are more gifted than others. You must be exceptional in some way
2006-11-12 14:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋